Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Dating Positives

So none of these dudes have made it to the finish line, but they have all left me with some positives habits as it relates to eating right and exercising.

People always say that your partner will help you be your best self. (Others also say you fall off/gain weight after getting married or coupling up. Let that not be my testimony. I digress.) If recent suitors are any indication, I can't wait to see what positive changes the guy who makes the final cut helps me make.

Bachelor Number 1 - Doesn't eat after the sun goes down. He feels like it's doing away with all the work he did during the day [at the gym, eating right, etc]. This means when I'm with him, I don't eat after dark. I'm usually not really hungry, just bored, so this is a good habit.

Bachelor Number 2 - Only eats organic foods. No hormones in the chicken. Free range brown eggs. Shit like that. This means if we share a meal, I'm eating all organic everything and lots of fresh fruits and veggies. I do notice a difference in my energy levels when

Bachelor Number 3 - Is a runner and a yogi. This means when we have "active" dates, you may find me running and/or doing yoga in New York (and looking very cute doing so, if I do say so myself). Y'all know I hate running, but hey, whatever works.

Has your partner and/or your dating life inspired any positive changes in your health and fitness?

Monday, June 29, 2015


Just got a sponsored email to my LinkedIn inbox and I'm PRETTY disgusted. New sales people are well, new. What happened to networking? Shaking my hand? Asking where I work? Where I'm from? Actually caring about if your company could be beneficial to my company? If you're sending me a blind email to LinkedIn about a "sale" on "services," I'm about certain I am never doing business with your service.

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

I'll count my blessings too

  1. I put together a new bench I bought from Wal-mart. (I am woman! Here me roar... or whatever)
  2. I've started to hang SOME photos on the wall. There are still a bunch sprawled about on the floor, but baby steps. 
  3. I had a friend come over and drill a hanging rack into my closet door.
  4. I figured out a reputable laundry delivery in my area. 
  5. I figured out a reputable grocery delivery in my area. 
  6. I figured out where the best grocery stores are on the way home (And Bed, Bath & Beyond and the container store are included in my grocery store list, LOL!). 
  7. I figured out how to get to Target in the Bronx and in East Harlem. Target is still so necessary.
  8. I figured out that if I get things shipped to my home, they will put them right near my door instead of leaving them on the first floor, which was so helpful when that heavy bench arrived. 
  9. I figured out the quickest way to get to work that includes a Dunkin' Donuts on the way. #WatchMeWin 
  10. I found a nail salon. 

See, even though I'm not looking at NY through rose-colored glasses anymore, the good stuff outweighs the bad stuff, so I'll observe, but I won't complain.

What tips do you have for settling into a new home? A new job? A new city?  

Monday, June 22, 2015

Count Your Blessings

Have you been home lately? Do your things work? Please stop and thank God right now.

A big part of getting settled is getting all the things to work... together... at the same time. I love my apartment, but here's a list of things that have been broken/not yet working that are driving/have driven me nuts:

  • The stove. This is because the property manager didn't turn on the gas. 
  • The oven. Even after turning on the gas and me calling no less than EVERY DAY for the past 45 days and they swear it works. I have had everyone who comes into my home (which is a lot of people. You get popular when you move to NY), try to turn on the oven. Nothing. 
  • The TV. Now this is my fault because I'm not audio/visual savvy and I don't try to be. A friend came over and hooked up the antenna, so I was good to go after about three weeks of no TV. 
  • The internet. Now it only took 1 week to set it up, but it was slow as hell, so I upgraded... online. Where they don't tell you to get an upgrade requires a new box. So then I went two more weeks with no internet in my home, which means 
  • The home theater doesn't work. My version of a TV is Netflix and Hulu Plus (And Pandora, of course) and nope, it doesn't work without internet.
  • Then I get the internet fixed and the home theater system STILL DOESN'T WORK! Again, I don't try to do these things myself, I get help and even with taking out all of the wires, it still didn't work until...
The next day it just did. Infuriating, but I'm also happy to have my sounds back.
  • My Wall Street Journal subscription. I have it coming to my job during the week and then to my home on the weekend. Weekend delivery is cool. Weekday delivery is a mess. I'm pretty sure the office is just taking my paper and giving it to the higher up. And I don't even read it (no time now that I have a job), but I like to see the headlines. And I paid for it. And by paid for it, I mean used airline miles to purchase it. But it's the principle of the thing. I want it because it's MINE. And I don't have it and I emailed them and I'm still not getting it. It's a mess.
I think those are all of the broken things and tomorrow, I'll send a list of things that ARE working out for me in NY. 

Wednesday, June 17, 2015

Oh, It Was Too Hard?

I have zero tolerance for waitstaff telling me it's too difficult/labor intensive to split a bill. My friends are not my husband. We do not have joint checking accounts and we do not carry cash and we do not HAVE to.

Them saying that to me is the equivalent of me telling my clients, your product is too hard to market. People get up every day and do very difficult things.

Monica Lewinsky has to try to find a boyfriend who takes her seriously.

Soldiers have to kill other humans to keep their respective countries safe.

I have to board trains full of people who DO THIS EVERY DAY, but still don't know to go to the middle of the train unless you're getting ready to get off.

Top brands have to anticipate smaller brands coming for their dome CONSISTENTLY. And smaller brands have to think of way to take share from the top.

And you came to work. To work now, not to social hour, or Netflix time or beach volleyball.

You came to WORK and it's TOO HARD to separate 11 entrees from each other for the purpose of getting paid, when you've already added 18% gratuity? Our request INCONVENIENCED YOU?


Looking for a new phrase for lazy. It should be in the dictionary next to: do better, try harder and this ain't that.

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Location, Location, Location

So having an NYC apartment makes you hot shit. BUT ALSO, the lingo is hilarious. Everyone who lives everywhere else INVITES themselves to your place.

But they don't ask if they can stay. Two of my friends have legit said via text.

"I'll be in NYC XYZ date"

Weeks after these texts were exchanged, something in my spirit told me to ask them where they were staying.

They both replied "I was planning on staying with you."


I actually don't care. I love it, in fact. I love hosting people. And folks who are close enough to me to stay on my couch know who they are.

What I am afraid of is peripheral folks sending that say "I'll be in NYC" text and getting their face cracked when I roll out the "you can't sit with us" or in my case "you can't sleep on my couch" tshirts.

Ah, New York.

Monday, June 15, 2015

I Love My Life!

I woke up feeling like this! I remember hearing this song a lot in the clubs in Jamaica and it cracked sort of how Pharrell's Happy used to crack in the clubs in the U.S. I was going to share this video on Facebook until I watched it. I had no idea it had such a heavy message. I fully support the message, but I'm not trying to upset anyone dealing with suicidal thoughts or the loss of a loved one who committed suicide.

So I'm sharing it here because I know you all know I mean well. And if this happens to strike a chord and upset you, my apologies in advance. I'm sending you all of my glitter and butterflies and good vibes because I am truly happy right now and I do, in fact, love my life!

Friday, June 12, 2015

NYC Observations: Never Pay Full Price

Now, I don't know what trust fund babies do. Or people who are using company dollars, but every native New Yorker I've met is all about finding the deal. They don't pay to get into anything. They have hook-ups for museums, goods and services. They have discounts on shows, shoes and clothing. They read their dinner receipts like mortgage contracts. They just think differently when it comes to money.

People are always talking about how much it costs to live here, but if you find the right hookups and happy hours, you can make out like a bandit in this city. If you decide to live in the outer boroughs, don't have a car note, car insurance or gas fees and are diligent about your spending, you could win in New York. 

It always was interesting to me that the people most concerned about "cost of living" were the people who lived in places that were cheap as hell. Both sets of people are "saving" money, either 1) Because they don't make a lot and have to make due (medium size city folks) and 2) because rent costs a lot and they have to make due (big city folks).

After living in a medium sized city and the largest city in the U.S. I think working folks in our country have more in common with each other than they realize.

Again, I'm not talking about old money. I don't know anything about old money. I would like to hop, skip, jump or fall into some old money, but until that happens, I'm just talking about middle class folks. I imagine it's difficult to live in poverty anywhere and I imagine it's easy to be wealthy anywhere.

But what do I know?

Thursday, June 11, 2015

NYC Observations: Booking, Eating, Drinking

So New Yorkers like options. As such, a lot of them double book their evenings and go with the best option and / or the option that doesn't cancel. You all know I have issues with people canceling on me, so this is good to know upfront.

So far, everyone typically calls/emails/texts to confirm and if I say hey, I'm not going to make it, they're SUPER chill about it.

I lowkey like this. It makes it so you are always doing the best thing. But also, if you are dead dog tired, you don't feel obligated to do something just because you said you would.

Also, everyone is busy. People are busy doing nothing. Folks in other cities eat three meals a day, but somehow eating in New York is takes up all of your waking time.

And drinking takes up the other time. There is liquor everywhere. It's like bread at an Italian restaurant or chips and salsa at a Mexican restaurant or Cheddar biscuits at Red Lobster. It just is.

I'm lowkey surprised they don't have liquor in church. It's New York though, so I'm sure I could find a church with liquor in it, if I tried hard enough.

I can find anything my heart desires here.

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Tea's Tangents: No Twitter Edition

  • I desperately need a manicure, but I break nails opening boxes, so I'm not going to waste my $11 and 45 minutes like that. 
  • Why does Microsoft disable a document every time you open it? Why would I be in it if I didn't want to open it. These extra steps are not good for my absentmindedness. I forget what the hell I was supposed to do.
  • They say it takes 21 days to form a habit. I am seriously thinking about staying off of social media all week (and then the next week and the next week) at work. 
  • Being off social media is making my day go by slower. I have work to do, but I don't want to do it. I want to look at shoes on Instagram.
  • It's too rainy outside to go take a walk. 

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Time Wasters

I read a really cool article about productivity. I think it was in Fortune. It said in addition to a to-do list, keep a to-don't list. Include on it little things that waste your time. As I'm sitting here not able to use social media, I've come up with like eight other things to do to NOT work. (I swear I'm productive though, just a complete busy body in my head). Here's my to-don't list. Let see if I can follow it.

10. Write/Read non-work related blogs during the work day. (Welp)
9. Facebook
8. Twiter
7. Instagram
6. Text people randomly (and/or respond to texts that I forgot to respond to during the week)
5. GroupMe (ooh wee, this is a mess)
4.  Updates my lists (concerts, restaurants, groceries, sermons) in Evernote
3. Check personal email
2. Online/Actual shopping
1. Gchat

What keeps you from being productive during the day?

Sunday, June 7, 2015

NYC Observations: Pack a big bag

I have so much to share with you all. I was going to make it a top 10, but I need to expound on each subject, so it might just be a series or a tag. We'll see how it goes.

First up, I learned that when you leave your house for the day, you are gone for the day. You need to have everything on you that you could possibly need:

  • Make-up
  • Heels
  • Flat shoes
  • A jacket (I actually need to buy several leathers because that's the NY uniform) 
  • Your metro card (Why would you ever leave the house without that) 
  • A book (for the metro) 
  • A phone charger
  • A change of drawls in the summer time
  • Baby wipes 
  • Headphones 

And this is also why so many New Yorkers wear all black. If you have on all black you can quickly transition from church to a rap concert to a charity fundraiser to an outdoor concert to a block party to brunch to a museum to a rooftop barbecue.

I went to the Met in a tshirt and jeans and red converses and my girl shows up in a blue silk shirt, black pants and a studded leather. I'm like are we going to the museum or a concert? She's like "I didn't know what we were doing today so I got dressed."

Ok, I'm learning. I'm learning.

Friday, June 5, 2015


I love public relations. It gets my juices flowing, but it's not like every task I do is super fun ALL the time. In fact, many of the tasks I do all day long are extra boring, but they lead up to something that's super fun.

In the middle of my day, most days, I check social media because it IS super fun ALL THE TIME.

But today [read: the day I wrote this], I decided not to get on social media. It's 8:53 a.m. I've been at work approximately 53 minutes and I've picked up my phone to check social media, no less than 8 times.

I've logged out of Twitter and Facebook on my desktop to remind me not to log in. I've also deleted Twitter and Instagram from my iPhone. Every time I pick it up to go to those apps, I'm reminded to get back to work.

And you know what, work is so much easier when I can focus on the task at hand instead of being sidetracked by who-knows-what on social media.

I think I may have to be responsible and stay off social during the day most days. Almost how parents don't let their kids watch TV during the week.

I used to think I could handle it, but I don't think so.

The day that I make myself stop checking email, text messaging and blogging at work, you'll know I'm REALLY about this paper. Maybe tomorrow.

Thursday, June 4, 2015


So that's it for the unemployment series. I hope you enjoyed it. If you know anyone that it could help, please share it with them: http://www.teaandsuch.blogspot.com/search/label/Unemployment

Thank you so much for reading and sharing this journey with me. Now posts will finally start coming in real time again.

ALSO, I'm probably out of free time to blog, being a new New Yorker or whatever, but I'm going to do my best. Don't quit me.

Wednesday, June 3, 2015

Sunday Night Problems

Originally written, Sunday 5/31.

I'm working tonight, but I'm not.

5:30 - Took a nap because it was raining like crazy in NYC
7:30 - Woke up, stalked IG
8 p.m. - Took some boxes downstairs and organized the kitchen (I''m still unpacking)
8:22 p.m. - See I missed a call from my girl, call her back.
9:51 p.m. - Get off the phone with my girl. Log onto my work computer.
11ish - Go to follow a vendor on Twitter, notice my background pic is fuzzy AND that I need to update my bio, start reading Twitter, check Facebook, write this blog,
11:30... - I guess I need to keep getting caught up on work email.

I can't wait until I have a rhythm together for work... and some kind of discipline to stop checking social media. And/or to stop processing every thought, something, I had the luxury of doing when I was unemployed. It's only been 2 weeks, but I'm an overachiever and I feel like I should have the hang of things by now. Nah.

Tuesday, June 2, 2015


Originally written on 5/27


I'm at work right now, but all I want to do is go home, unpack, make a target run, then clean my hardwood floors (from all the box dust from the move).

I don't remember feeling this unsettled when I moved to Pittsburgh, but my Pittsburgh movers probably came at 9 a.m. or something like that vs. 3:45 p.m. like my New York movers. And I probably spent SOME time unpacking in Pittsburgh vs. running IMMEDIATELY to the airport to go to Chicago for an epic holiday weekend (Grits & Biscuits, Gemini day party, wedding of the century, quality time with my sick grandmother).

Nonetheless, I'm in here. I'm getting paid. I'm happy to be here. And I'm grinding!

How's your work day going?

Monday, June 1, 2015

It's Really Real... But Also, Healthcare.

Originally written on 5/25


I just finished making my benefits elections. I also canceled Obamacare, so that I don't have coverage from two places at the same time. You'd think double coverage would help, but it actually hurts and  the insurance companies are both trying to NOT pay your bills.

Anywo, I still can't really believe I live in New York, but I guess I better act like it.

ALSO, let me take this time to plug Obamacare. You cannot afford to NOT have health insurance in 2015. Not only is there a tax penalty, but it costs money to be sick. It's cheaper to be insured.

I got Obamacare IMMEDIATELY after getting laid off. Fortunately for me, open enrollment was happening until February 15. I'm not sure how it would have worked if I'd gotten laid off after February 15. I'm pretty sure open enrollment is coming up again in October 2015. If you don't have insurance, please strongly consider getting it.

Also, you may have heard that it's hard to enroll. It's not exactly a cakewalk (lots of steps), but if you have any amount of sense you can do it. If you've ever mailed a package with the USPS, you can do it. And if you DON'T have any sense, you can call and the people on the phone are VERY helpful.

So, again, I'm telling you GET HEALTH INSURANCE. And I'm not saying that because I have a job. When I didn't have a job, I paid the 5 for Obamacare because getting sick and not being able to pay for life-saving medication is way more expensive than paying for medical care every month. If you can afford a cell phone and/or any form of entertainment (concerts, cable, netflix, hulu plus, HBO Go, Showtime and/or the strip club), then you can afford health insurance.

https://www.healthcare.gov/ DO IT NOW!