Monday, March 31, 2014

He Said It. I Didn't...

So Damon Young (aka the Champ) from VSB is from Pittsburgh? Did you know that? I didn't know that. Well, maybe I found out at some point and followed him on my public Twitter profile, but then I forgot.

So I gave up drinking for Lent (I'm going somewhere with this), so I have a lot more free time, so I'm catching up on my blog reading.

I came across the following article on VSB, which then directed to the Pittsburgh Post Gazette. I was going to share it on Facebook, but coworkers read it. And despite being an individual with my own thoughts and opinions, I always worry that stating what's true, if it's negative, is going to make me look like I'm not an advocate of my job or my company or the city that my company is in.

Given the topic of the article you can really see where I'm coming from, but...

*sigh* here it is:

New York, San Francisco and Portland, Ore., are wonderful cities that can’t resist preening when passing mirrors to remind themselves just how wonderful they are. Pittsburgh is a wonderful city that doesn’t even see the mirror. It just turns to its buddies and says, “Hey, yinz guys, let’s go have a beer.”
Like many Pittsburghers — native, current, newly transplanted, newly transplanted away — I read the Chicago Tribune’s Josh Noel’s ode to our city with pride. Nodding with every laud, my fiancee and I even gave ourselves cool points for our familiarity with many of the venues Noel name-dropped. (Shout out to 720!)

We felt the same spirit when sharing and retweeting Buzzfeed’s “16 Reasons Why Pittsburgh Is the Greatest City on the Planet” months earlier, and Pitt Girl’s year-end “10 Reasons Why Pittsburgh Owned 2013.”

Although not without its faults, the Burgh has a beauty and character that somehow manages to be both sneaky and striking. It doesn’t just grow on you. It grows in you. And seeing it receive so much national love — so much proof that others finally recognize what’s happening here — is not unlike the feeling a father might have when his daughter’s soccer coach finally notices and acknowledges her hustle.

For black Pittsburghers, though...

Read more here

Friday, March 28, 2014

Concerts in the 'Burgh

So Pittsburgh isn't the worst place to be. There are actually lots of good concerts that come to the area. Beyonce didn't come, which further let's me know I need to leave here, but 

Jay-Z, Justin Timberlake, Drake, Pusha T and 2 Chainz have all recently toured here. Not so bad. Here are my top 10 upcoming concerts... with 10 being, someone I know may be interested and 1 being something I might actually go to.


10. Bruce Springsteen, April 22, Consol Energy Center (Had to get this list to 10 somehow)  
9. Rod Stewart and Santana, May 26 (Again, 10 was a stretch) 
8. Lady Gaga, Consol Energy Center  

7. Rockie Fresh, March 29, Altar Bar (I don't go to bars that used to be churches. Nope, can't do it.)
6. Jim Jones, April 4, First Friday at Whim (I don't "do" Whim)
5.  Robert Glasper, April 29th, Cabaret at Theater Square (Sold Out) 
4. John Legend, June 15, Byham Theater (Tickets are too damn expensive, but if I can get a deal at the last minute, I'll go.)
3. Fantasia, May 11, The Benedum - I might roll through 
2. The Foreign Exchange, April 11, Market Square - It appears to be Free.99!!!
1. Hugh Masekala, March 30, Hazlett Theater (I really thought he was playing at MCG Jazz Hall, but maybe I was mistaken), tickets are $45. I might go.


Israel Houghton and New Breed, Friday, April 18 (Good Friday), The Benedum 

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

eHarmony Dating Safety Tips: Part 2

Ok, so these aren't really Tea's Top 10. There's E's top 10. You know you love me when I'm corny!

Yesterday's post was too long, so here are the rest of the Dating Safety tips from eHarmony.

6. Use Caution When Deciding to Click on Any URL Link 

We understand that a match may share a URL link to a favorite website or article as part of the get-to-know-you communication process. However, as a general practice, you should always use good judgment and be cautious when deciding to click on any URL links. Use of these links to access other Internet sites is at your own risk.

7. Take Your Time

While online communication can accelerate one's sense of comfort and intimacy, we can't stress enough how important it is for you to take your time getting to know your match. We encourage you to use eHarmony's anonymous eHarmony Mail system as long as necessary to find out as much about your match as is reasonably possible.
Even though eHarmony's Compatibility Matching System? creates extremely compatible matches, compatibility alone does not replace the need for real-life experience. It is vital to date and get to know each other in a deep, revealing and meaningful way by sharing a broad base of experiences together. The more experiences you share, the better your chances of avoiding hidden and sometimes unpleasant surprises. So allow time for a variety of experiences to occur, particularly your everyday routines. In cases of long-distance relationships, if possible, you should consider living in the same area for a significant time before committing to a more serious relationship. Move slowly and pay attention to the reality of your new relationship.

8. Make Your First Date Safe and Successful

Meeting in person is exciting. Have fun and explore the level of chemistry you share with your date, but don't let high hopes cloud your ability to exercise reasonable caution.
  • Choose the time and place of your date wisely. Meet in a public place at a decent hour during which lots of people will be around. Lunch dates work especially well.
  • Limit alcohol consumption or abstain entirely until you know the person better.
  • Use your own transportation, even when meeting someone who lives a great distance away from you. Never agree to be picked up at your home. It's never a good idea to get into someone's personal vehicle on a first date. Wherever possible, drive yourself or take a taxi.
  • Tell at least one friend or family member about your plans and when you will return. Arrange to check in with them after each of the first few dates.
  • Carry a fully charged mobile phone with easily accessible emergency numbers.
  • Leave unattended personal belongings such as purses, wallets, or jackets with pockets that may contain items that could reveal personal information about you, such as a driver's license, credit cards and ATM receipts.
  • Meet at your house or place of work or give that information out until you have had a good opportunity to know the other person better.
  • Incur large expenses on a date without first discussing how the cost will be divided.
  • Go home with someone, even if it feels like everything is going great. You have not spent enough time with them to assess whether your safety is at risk.

9. Always be Respectful and Kind

Always be respectful and treat your matches as you would want them to treat you. Not every match is going to be right for you so closing communication with matches and having matches close communication with you is a natural and healthy part of the process. eHarmony is about bringing two compatible people together who have a solid foundation from which a long-term relationship would have a high probability of success. You still need to carefully consider whether this particular person is one with whom you would like to further a relationship. If you feel the need to end communication, then be honest, direct and polite. The sooner you address this determination, the better for both of you.
If a match feels the need to close communication with you, please respect their wishes.

10. Report Concerns About a Match to eHarmony

eHarmony works hard to close individuals who misrepresent who they are on our site, and we take member complaints seriously. If you have concerns about a particular match, please do not hesitate to contact us so that appropriate steps can be taken to keep eHarmony safe. Email your concerns to:
If eHarmony closes an account for suspect activity, inappropriate behavior or falsified identity, you may be notified via email to discontinue communicating with the match in question. We strongly encourage all of our members to review emails received from eHarmony to ensure this communication is received promptly.
We hope these guidelines will help to make your eHarmony experience a success, and that you will find your soul mate as so many others before you have done.
eHarmony Customer Care

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Dating Safety Tips from eHarmony

So I'm on eHarmony. I don't have nearly as many funny stories as I did from Match. The eHarmony stories are actually kind of sad. It's like this is such a good guy, but we're not compatible at all, but I'm not here to talk to y'all about that. Let's talk about dating safety.

eHarmony makes you go through a long process before you can email someone. Then they give you these guidelines that you must read and agree to in order to talk to the person. They need to package these up and sell them to parents. Actually, they need to give them to parents and college students and young professionals and newly divorced people as a PSA. In this Google-everything world we live in, dating can be scary. These are some of the best and safest dating "guidelines" I've ever seen.

Kudos to eHarmony! 

Check out the guidelines below: 

eHarmony Mail Guidelines

Finding the kind of love that lasts a lifetime online is not only possible, but likely. eHarmony works hard to deliver you the most compatible matches possible. We believe in empowering you to make the best choices by providing guidance and support to help you discover your best qualities and those of your potential partners throughout your search.

As with anyone you meet - online or offline - your sound judgment and instincts are necessary to protect yourself. There is no substitution for acting with caution when communicating with someone you are just getting to know. Here are some essential 'rules-of-the-road' for safely navigating any relationship, but especially one that begins online.

1. Always Use Your Best Judgment

While eHarmony routinely monitors account activity and investigates all complaints of unusual, inappropriate or falsified accounts, eHarmony does not conduct criminal background checks at the time an account is registered. As with any personal interaction, keep in mind it is always possible for people to misrepresent themselves. Assessing a match's truthfulness and honesty is ultimately your responsibility. Don't ignore any facts that seem inconsistent or "off." Trust your instincts and remember that you have control over the situation. If you're talking to someone online or by phone and they say things that raise your suspicions, consider ending the conversation. If you're out on a date and you feel uncomfortable, leave.
Also, be aware of these common red flags when you're getting to know someone new. Watch out for someone who:
  • Immediately requests to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service.
  • Claims that your introduction was "destiny" or "fate," especially early in communication
  • Claims to be from the U.S. but is currently living, working, or traveling abroad.
  • Asks for money, goods or any similar type of assistance, especially if you have never met in person.
  • Asks you to assist with personal transactions (depositing funds, shipping merchandise, etc).
  • Wants the relationship to progress faster than you are comfortable going.
  • Reports a sudden personal crisis and pressures you to provide financial assistance. Be especially wary if the person's demands become increasingly aggressive.
  • Asks inappropriate questions.
  • Requests your home or work address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts.
  • Tells inconsistent or grandiose stories.
  • Gives vague answers to specific questions.
  • Urges you to compromise your principles.
  • Constantly blames others for troubles in his or her life.
  • Insists on getting overly close, very fast.
  • Claims to be recently widowed.
  • Disappears suddenly from the site then reappears under a different name.
If a match does any of the above activities or makes you suspicious in any other way, please report this as a Match Concern by emailing so that we can investigate the matter.

2. NEVER Share Financial Information or Certain Personal Information

  • NEVER give out your credit card number or bank information.
  • NEVER share your Social Security Number, mother's maiden name, or other private information that can be used to access your financial information.
  • NEVER send money to someone you meet online, especially by wire transfer. Immediately stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal or financial information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it.
Immediately stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal or financial information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it.

3. Protect Your Account

When accessing your account from a public or shared computer, use caution and be aware of your surroundings so that others are not able to view or record your password or other personal information.

4. Be Cautious When Sharing Personal Information

We strongly encourage you to be cautious when sharing personal information that could reveal your identity. Never include your last name, email address, home address, telephone number, place of work or any other identifying information in your Internet profile or initial email messages. Take full advantage of our secure and completely anonymous Guided Communication process, and resist the urge to provide a personal email or phone number right away, no matter how strong a connection to your match may feel. Once you've given out personal information, you cannot take it back! We encourage you to get to know a match well via our secure eHarmony Mail system before taking the next step and sharing a telephone number, instant messenger handle or email address.
Phoning with the other person is an important step in getting to know each other better. But before you share phone numbers, make sure you have discussed the need to respect each other's privacy. If either of you decide to end communication in the future, agree not to use the phone number as a means to pursue an unwanted relationship. For added security, try using your phone's privacy features when you call, like private number blocking. You also have the option to use eHarmony's Secure Call service that allows you and your match to call each other without exchanging phone numbers right away.

5. Do Your Own Research

While we conduct certain types of screening and utilize a variety of screening technologies and resources, such as screening our U.S. subscribers against public sex offender registries in the United States, it is important to remember that such screenings are inherently limited. Registries can be incomplete or inaccurate, and states and jurisdictions differ as to what type of crime must be registered on their registries and what types of crimes get removed. Many crimes often go unreported and perpetrators are not always convicted. Relying solely on screening can provide a false sense of security, so we strongly recommend that you follow the rest of the Safety Tips regardless of any screenings that we may perform. When it comes to your personal safety, you are in ultimate control.
It is also important to note that our optional identity verification service, which is powered by our partner RelyID?, is not a background check. We rely on the honesty of our members when filling out our eHarmony Relationship Questionnaire to supply us with their correct date of birth, marital status, city and state of residence, occupation, educational background and other information.
Regardless of the connection you feel with any of your matches, we encourage you to do your own research before meeting in person. This can include typing your match's name into a search engine, contacting your state or local municipalities to obtain public information, or using a paid serviceto obtain a full background report. Above all else, use common sense. Pay attention to the details someone shares with you. If you find anything that doesn't seem to add up, follow your intuition and stop communicating with that person.

Monday, March 24, 2014

I'm officially a mentor!

It's about time!!! So here's the deal. I chose to work with the Gwen's Girl's group home. At any given time there are up to 13 teens and young adults between the ages of 13 and 19 and their respective children in the home.

I did my first observation a couple of weeks ago and decided to move forward with it. (They want you to observe first, so you don't commit and then back out).

Despite my better judgment (I'm a busy professional with an unpredictable schedule), I have agreed to be there every Wednesday from 6-8 p.m.

Since this is the girls' home, they are almost always there during that time. (vs. weekends when they have home visits and free time.)

Wednesdays are also the day that I'm most likely to be in town and open.

But enough about my schedule. I need stuff to do with the girls.

Who has good mentee activities? It needs to be something that can be done in a group setting, at a table and engaging for 2 hours (or so) at a time.

I also don't want to be lame or fake. I never had a mentor as a child, so I don't have a model. Here are some things I'm thinking about doing:

- Vision Board (thought I think this is a weak activity and I probably won't do it)
- Identifying favorite women leaders for women's history month
- A discussion beauty (think Dove brand example)
- A career discussion (I can tell them what I do and have them brainstorm ideas with me)
- Something about safe sex
- Something about black history
- Something about local leaders. Let's find out who the local leaders are.
- Something about voting, elections, local government...

Any other suggestions? Any tips for me? I have to do one of these in 2 days. I want to be prepared!

Friday, March 21, 2014

Insecurities on Display

I'm about to put my insecurities on full display this morning. I have a fear of being forgotten and/or not heard. These fears play out in real life through anger. I don't like repeating myself because I feel like you should have been listening the first time.

I also don't like when people forget the details of my life. (Which is asinine because I damn sure don't remember theirs.)

A few hilarious examples of this came up recently:

  • A party promoter thinks I went to FAMU. He went to Howard. We have this friendly banter about how FAM is better than Howard. I went to U of I... We got in the party at a discount. That's all that matters. 
  • Barista at the hotel coffee shop near my job (because why would access to a real Starbucks be feasible in Pittsburgh...). Anywho, she goes "hey stranger? Extra caramel, extra whip?" I'm like nah, just the regular amount. She's like: "oh, you switched it up huh?" I've never ordered extra caramel or extra whip cream in my caramel macchiato. It's enough sugar in that thing already. 
  • A high school classmate recently moved to the 'Burgh. When she made the announcement, I told her to hit me up once she got settled. She hits me yesterday about a FB status I made about Pittsburgh and says "I didn't know you lived in Pittsburgh. I just moved here recently." So... my little outreach message never made it to you. OR you just conveniently ignored it. 
  • I go to my mom's church. The church I grew up in. A friend's dad says: "I haven't seen you here in a while." For starters, I don't live in Chicago. Even worse, I haven't gone to that church as a member since 2005. Why does no one know this?  
  • Finally, people don't know I live in Pittsburgh. I've been here 16 months. I know Ishea's going to say "But you go to Chicago once a month" so people who aren't close to me aren't going to know that. But I feel like they should. 
  Cue Beyonce's Listen AND I Was Here. *rocks back and forth with my lighter*

Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Lost in Pittsburgh...

The funniest thing happened to me on Monday. I was going to Tweet it, but my friend who was the cause of the problem follows me (one of like three people who follow me on Twitter in Pittsburgh) and I didn't want to make her feel worse.

So she invites me to one of her favorite spots, Mad Mex. Surprisingly, I know exactly where it is and despite it being a Monday, I can actually make it there at a decent hour.

I hightail it out of work, then have the worst traffic on a road that is the only shortcut I know in Pittsburgh. What's worse is that the traffic was a gaper's delay. Both lanes on my side of a four lane highway were open, but idiots were just stopping to see what happened.

I get there, the hostess tells me I can look around and I go upstairs, damn near into the kitchen. I don't see my friend. She's black. This is Pittsburgh. No way it should have taken me that long to find her.

My phone is on 11% at this point and I call and text to see where she is. She's like come all the way to the back. I'm like "past the kitchen"? She's like aw man, are you at the Shadyside location. I'm like yeah, where else would I be. (She lives in Shadyside). She's like dang, we're in Oakland.

I'm like *scrunchy face* OAKLAND? Oakland is where the University of Pittsburgh is. If I'm not in school there, I have NO BUSINESS being on that campus. Just congestion and drunkenness and broke men... Oops, I mean students.

Then I remember that she went to Pitt. That's her entire reason for being here and even though she graduated at least 3 years ago, she probably still has some favorite spots that are carryovers from her college days.

So she texts me the address. My phone dies. I ask the valet how to get there. He sends me off. I end up at the zoo. Anytime, you end up at a zoo, forest preserve, natural habitat, national park... you think "Hmm... I may have made a wrong turn."

I get out and go to a gas station and there are black people in it. I'm thinking "what neighborhood is this that there are exclusively African-Americans here?" Damn shame.

So the brother gives me directions and once again, it's a send-off.

In 2014, people don't know how to give directions. In 2014, I don't know how to read and/or comprehend directions.

It was a mess on all fronts.

I just went home because I knew exactly how to get there from where I was (this is a win if I do say so myself).

Worst part. She'd already ordered me a taco salad and I now I have a taste for one and I'm not making it at home.

Lessons. I need a new phone. I need to ask for addresses and ensure I know where I'm going before I leave. I probably should have just went home after work anyway since my budget doesn't really support all of this dining out. Pittsburgh is a confusing, traffic-filled place to live, but I think I can manage.

Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Book Review: Lean In, Part 2

5. Language is important - After reading (listening to) this book, I no longer say "Does your wife work?" I now say "Does your wife work outside of the home. The former indicates that women who work outside of the home think less of women who stay at home with their children and that's not true. It also negates all of the work that women who stay at home with children do. If they worked outside of the home, they would have to pay someone else for childcare and we consider that work, so why not consider it work for women at home with the kiddies. It's a very interesting concept.

4. Stay-At-Home Dads Rock - After reading this book, I have completely changed my archaic stance on stay-at-home dads. I really used to think it was ridiculous, but it we're going to live in a world where half the men are leaders in the workplace and half the women are leaders in the workplace, it naturally follows that half the people who stay at home with the kids and half the people who stay at home with the kids will be women and half will be men. It's the natural progression of things.

3. You cannot do it all - A lot of people who haven't read this book think it's about being superwoman. It's not at all. She discusses how some very tough decisions have to be made. Which basketball games to attend. Which client meetings to miss. The list goes on and on. This book is about how to Lean In to your career as a woman. It's not a book about how to be a good mother. That's not to say you can't do both, but this is not a book about parenting.

2. Pregnancy does not equal forfeit - Don't let the possibilities of life's decisions stop you from achieving your goals. She talked about how lots of women will turn down difficult jobs or jobs that will set them up for a better leadership position because they are pregnant or planning to be pregnant. She cites studies that say if you take a new position right before you have a baby, you're more likely to stay in the workforce AND enjoy your job after you give birth. vs. hating a position and then not being compelled to go back after you have the new responsibility of a baby.

1. There's still tap dancing involved - She mentions that if we know people are going to have adverse reactions to us just because we are women, we have to use that knowledge to get what we want. The argument that "I'm doing the same thing he is" sounds good, but until those systematic changes are put in place, we have to use what we know to get what we want... which is into leadership.

All in all, the book was excellent. It gave me a lot to think about and a lot to do. It gave me some new ways to speak about leadership and relationships and the conversation continues at

Have you read this book? What did you think?

Monday, March 17, 2014

Book Review: Lean In, Part 1

Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg is a feminist manifesto about women who want to lead in the workplace and men who are committed to having more men lead in the workplace.

One thing that's very important to note is all of the research she quoted. This wasn't a "I'm awesome, get like me" book. She did a phenomenal job of backing everything she had to say up with data.

I listened to this book as a book on tape, so I can't quote as many things as I would like to, but I'd like to share the top 10 things I learned (all paraphrased)

10. It's not about blame - In the preface to the book, the author, Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook admitted that she understands that societal change is both systematic AND behavioral. She acknowledges that one cannot happen without the other and she goes on to say that this book is not about systematic changes. She appreciates the work that is being done in that space, but she is talking to women about the behaviors they take that prevent them from being in leadership and how to change them.

9. She's not perfect - She mentions more times than a few that she hasn't followed her own advice in the book. Not because she didn't try, but because she was younger and didn't know better or because it's easier said than done. She's not, by any means, trying to say, "look at me, I'm the perfect model." She's courageously talking about a topic that a lot of people want her to shut up about.

8. People hate women in leadership - She cited a case about Harvard students reading a case study about a manager. For half of the class, the manager had a male name. For the other half of the class, the manager had a female name. The students felt that the man had all of positive characteristics, but when it came to the woman, they called her selfish, domineering, rude. Some other horrible attributes. IT WAS THE SAME CASE. She spends a lot of time on this discussing how, because we are women, people think we are either good at home or good at work, but cannot imagine that we are good at both things. If nothing else, this made me feel better about adverse reactions people have to things that I think are perfectly reasonable.

7. Your partner has to be on board - She said in so many words (or maybe said it directly) that one of the most important decisions you can make about your career is who you choose to spend your life with. [I wanted to pull the car over and do a praise dance on this one]. I can't remember the exact anecdotes, but she said her husband knows that she's a leader and he can't expect her to be everything to the kids. There are options for stuff like laundry. He can do it. A maid can do it. Or it's not going to get done.

6. Gender expectations are harmful to women in the workplace - Again, because of gender norms, she spent a lot of time citing studies that show women being villified for not fulfilling traditional roles. For example, if the mom instead of the dad is always working late, the children tend to harbor more resentment toward the mom, than they would have if the dad was in that same position.

More on this tomorrow...

Sunday, March 16, 2014

The blog before the blog

I was getting ready to write a blog about professional development and share with you where I am on that journey, but so many other things that are necessary to the entire story crossed my mind. I wanted to share a few of them.

  • Being in a book store as an adult makes me feel like being in the library as a kid. I loved to read. I still love the read, but just don't have as much time for it. The nostalgia is amazing and I hope Barnes and Noble has a better business plan than Borders did.
  • When I was in the bookstore I saw all of these best sellers on the shelf in leadership and management and noticed that I have a lot of these books on my bookshelf. I'm not sure what happens between the time that I order a book and the time that it gets to my house that makes me not want to read it anymore, but this happens a ton.
  • Further, I came home thinking I was going to read "Getting Things Done" by David Allen and ended up reading The Emotional Intelligence Quickbook by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves.
  • I counted and I literally have 20+ books about communication, professional development, overcoming differences (being black and/or a woman in the workplace) and leadership. They are either unread or half-read or I read them and forgot to read them.
  • I don't even own my favorite leadership book, which is Expect to Win by Carla Harris. I was reading this book while I was working on paying my credit cards down, so I would literally go into Borders, read as many chapters as I could and put it back on the shelf.
  • Now that I'm in a better financial state, I should just buy Expect to Win to support Carla Harris and quit playing. *goes to*
  • Finally, I found a receipt in the Emotional Intelligence book. It was from August 2008 and it was for a pair of pink Crocs that my then-boo bought for me because I literally forgot my wallet at home and we were shopping in Wicker Park. I miss the idea of him. He was a business owner, dressed impeccably, was tall and dark (you know how I do), had a penchant for the finer things and made me feel good all warm and fuzzy inside when I was with him. On the flip side, he was also a mama's boy, never made me a priority and we fought like siblings fighting for their parents love and approval. He got on my got damn nerves and vice versa.
All of these bullets points are where my head has been for the last few hours. Book reviews and further reflection coming up this week.

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Who is she?

I'm in between grocery store visits and am using scented lotion that I don't normally use and I forgot about that. So I still put perfume on... on top of this foreign [to me] scented lotion.

I smell like someone else. I don't know her. I think I like her. She smells good, but she doesn't smell like me.

I'm like a floral chemistry experiment right now and if I was in closer quarters with coworkers, I would probably "offend" someone.

Side note: how are people so offended by good smells? I was in the back of a car that smelled like must on a work trip and asked if I could get an air freshener (because I know mogs are always offended by good smells) and they were like no, no, no it's going to give me a headache.

I'm thinking the smell of old feet doesn't give you a headache?

How have I gotten so far away from what I was trying to say.

I don't know, but maybe one day I'll post more than three times a month.

Probably not.