Friday, April 26, 2013


Plane tickets. Booked.
Evite. Sent.
Outlook. Sent.
Car. Rented. 
Hair appointment. Check.
Nail appointment. Check.
Brow appointment. Check.
Spa appointment. Check.
SPRINKLES appointment. Check. (This is an internal appointment, you feel me.)
Freakum dress superstore appointment. (see above)
Make-up appointment. Check.
Bottles reserved. Check.
BBQ caterer. Check.
Liquor distributor. Check.
Texts to people who don't check email. Check! Check! Check!
Get on both of my grandmas calendars. Check.
Nonprofit meeting. Scheduled.

Yeah, I'm coming home for my birthday. GEEKED!

See you all soon!

Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Black Shoe Update

The BCBGeneration shoes I bought hurt like hell, so I was back on the hunt again. So I ordered some Herve Leger shoes from Luxe810 the new discount designer section of DSW. Originally $600 on sale for $250. Woo chile. I was too excited.

Opened the box and the leather was SUPPLE y'all. But guess what, it also hurt like hell. Had to send them back.

I broke down and bought this Nine West pair for $79. It's cheap, it's comfortable, it will tear up in a year and I'll just buy it again.

Better to have to buy $79 shoes each year than to walk like a fish out of water in $600 shoes that hurt.

Also, I'm not sure why I didn't figure this out before, but black, leather, pointed toe, 4in heels are a spring shoe (and the ones I ending up buying are 3 1/2 inches, so maybe that's the problem). Now that I've broken down to get the Nine West one, Ralph Lauren has one. Enzo has one. Every store brand has one. I bet Michael Kors and Stuart Weitzman have them now too. Reminds me how I spent day and night looking for chocolate brown pumps before I found out they had been replaced on the color wheel by nude. Now I know.

You shop and you learn.

Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Last Names for First Names

I'm SO into them right now. Here are some of my faves.

10. Taylor
9. Tyler
8. William
7. Hunter
6. Sanchez
5. Ryan
4. Chandler
3. Thomas
2. Allen
1. Steward

You can steal these. By the time I have children I probably will be on to a new trend.

Can you think of any others?

Sunday, April 14, 2013

Go To Sleep!

I did a Facebook poll asking friends whether they turn their phone on ring, vibrate or silent when they go to sleep.

Of the 14 respondents

Silent - 7 (2 people said DND which I grouped as silent)
Ring - 6
Vibrate - 1

The reason I did this poll is because I send emails and notes at all times of the day and night. Generally, I send messages when I am free which has nothing to do with appropriate hours to reach someone. In today's society when people receive all notifications on their phone, it occurred to me that I could be being rude by sending messages at any time. I sent an Evite out at 8:30 a.m. ET on a Saturday, so people who were on the west coast might have been cursing my name.

In case you were wondering I put my phone on silent when I go to sleep. Social media is in my job description. There isn't an hour of the waking day that I'm not online and completely available and reachable. When I'm sleep, I need to be able to go off the grid. It's my only truly free time. 

Almost everyone who said they keep their phone on ring or vibrate qualified it. It's like they know they should turn the phone off to get a good night's sleep, but they have reservations. Here are my tips to get over those reservations, get a good night's sleep AND to get them to stop cursing me out when I send late night texts, emails and GroupMe chats.

I keep my phone on ring because I'm not that popular - Likely, if you're not that popular, you have a list of people who COULD be calling whose call you would take in the wee hours of the morning. GET AN iPHONE NOW! It has a "Do Not Disturb" feature that stops texts, emails and calls from anyone other than folks on your "favorites" list. Add your small group of people you'd actually take calls from to your favorites. Now you're good to go.

I need to keep my phone on ring because I use it as my alarm - Again, upgrade to an iPhone IMMEDIATELY. You'll wonder how you lived in the dark ages so long. I put my phone on silent every night and my smart iPhone recognizes that the alarm still needs to make noise whether the phone is on silent or not. How dumb are Blackberries Androids for not figuring this out?

I keep my phone on ring because someone could have an emergency - Stop what you're doing. Make a list of everyone you love. Call them RIGHT NOW and tell them you love them. Now that you've done that step, know that if God and Satan came to an agreement that something horrible is going to happen to your loved one, there's nothing you can do to stop it (Look at Job's family). If everyone you love knows you love them, there's no need to worry that you'll be needed while you're sleeping. Unless there are special circumstances (Caring for an ailing loved one, a disabled child who's away from you, etc.), there's no reason to lose sleep about something that COULD happen.

So what do you think? Is this helpful or do I need to stop emailing y'all early in the morning?

Friday, April 5, 2013

It's Not a Priority

Someone put up a post on Instagram (I'm so addicted now) that said "When you say you don't have time to do something try replacing that with 'it's not a priority to me' and see how that feels."

This phrase has given me such life. Since giving up TV for Lent there are tons of things I COULD have done with all that free time, but didn't.

Here are some examples of how these things went in my head. (Or maybe out loud because I live alone so I can talk to myself. Who gone check me boo?)

Cook dinner instead of eating Chipotle... It's not a priority to me.
Mop the floor... It's not a priority to me.
Twist my hair before going to bed (depending on the day of the week)... It's not a priority to me.
Go to church...yeah, that's a priority.
Pray daily... Wayment. Hold Up. It IS a priority, so I gotta make it happen. .

In that same vein, I remember working at a job and I told one of my mentors that I was furious at my bosses because they "didn't respect my time." She looked at me and said "No, you don't respect your own time."

Professionally, I used to feel like going the extra mile meant sacrificing work-life balance. Now I know that I get to decide my own priorities. And yes, in some instances there will be late nights and early mornings, but for the most part if I make it clear that my office hours are from 9 to 5 (*big red finger waves waving), then people can't disrespect that unless I allow them to.

Personally, if I decide that mopping the floor or responding to emails IMMEDIATELY does not make my world turn, then that's ok too.

This line has eased my mind (and my schedule). Look at God speaking to his child on Instagram. :-)