Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Moving and Such: Part 2

So as you can see my life is all about convenience. My grocery store is walking distance from my home (for when I'm not using Peapod). If something isn't on my bus route, I'm generally not going and I just like to be *Jamie Foxx voice* comf-table.

Here's the rest of the things you need to know when moving offices to make your day go by smoothly.

5. How to use your phone. Oh, the laughs we had trying to dial into a client call on the new phones. I swear I'm college educated, but I need to press what? How do I conference someone in? Tell me again. LOL!

4. Where the cheapest and most delicious lunch spots are located. I had pasta with sauce and bread for $6 my first day venturing out. Not bad, not bad.

3. Where the supply room is located. I still haven't found it here, but it's on and poppin' when I do. Your girl loves multicolored Post-its. Hooray!

2. Which printer you print to. Self-explanatory. I never realized I printed out so much paper. Wht can I say, I do enjoy hard copies of the written word.

1. Where your friends and teammates sit. I definitely have a few more rounds around this place before I can pinpoint all of my peeps.

Did you recently start a new job or move offices? Do you have any fun tips to share?

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Moving and Such

My gig moved to our new offices and it doesn't seem like such a big deal until your routine is knocked off its square. Here are 10 things you want to find out BEFORE you move offices (or at least on your 1st day).

10. Where is the closest Dunkin' Donuts or Starbucks (whatever you fancy) - There are no DDs, by my new gig. I also found out that the cafe in the hotel near the gig "brews Starbucks coffee", but is not a Starbucks. My search for coffee and breakfast continues.

9. How will this change your commute. One of my coworkers took a cab on the first day. She was like "I don't that bus route that well". This was hilariously funny to me. I'm actually closer to the new gig, same bus route, which makes me happy.

8. How to use the elevators in your new building. Apparently friendly people are hard to come by. So when I pressed our floor about 10 times and it wouldn't stay lit, no one told me that I needed my key card to access the floor. Womp.

7. Shortcuts into the building. It doesn't seem like a lot, but one entrance is a block away from another. In the Chitown cold, rain, sleet or snow, I was pleasantly surprised to find out I could go through the back entrance. Shorter steps to warmth. :)

6. Building Amenities - Apparently there's a grocery store in this place, but you have to take the freight elevator to it. Fun and scary at the same time.

More on this tomorrow...

Monday, November 28, 2011

Ok, we get it

I totally stole this concept from KD, but it's so fitting. In honor of the holiday season here are some of my holiday "Ok, we get its"

  • Ok, we get it: Christmas shopping is all about commercialism and has nothing to do with Jesus and you hate it.
  • Ok, we get it: You're not buying Christmas gifts this year and it has nothing to do with the fact that you are broke, it's because you hate commercialism.
  • Ok, we get it: Jesus was not born on December 25th.
  • Ok, we get it: You hate getting mass text messages on holidays. Don't send you one, lest we want to be blasted off our your "friends" list.
  • Ok, we get it: You hate logging onto Twitter on the holidays because people are so positive and there's no reason to be positive one day and negative the other 364.
  • Ok, we get it: You're not a Christian. You're "spiritual". You hate all Christian based holidays and the "God Bless You"s and "Jesus is the reason for the season"s that come with it.
  • Ok, we get it: You're upset that people are Tweeting about snow and cold because it snows and is cold every winter. Because God forbid people talk about meaningless topics on a platform as big and important as Twitter.
That's all I have for now, but ok... we get it.

Friday, November 25, 2011

Black Friday

All these years, I've been writing this blog and I've never talked about Black Friday [and/or I can't find it when I search which means it doesn't exist]. Let's get to it shall we.

I don't shop on Black Friday. It has nothing to do with commercialism and greed: Here's why:

1. I like to sleep.
2. I can find a good sale, any day, anywhere.
3. I heard about someone dying at a Wal-mart in D.C. a couple of years ago. I could see the headline now: Chicago PR Diva Trampled in Search of Discounts on Her Client's Products... #NoThankYou
4. I don't generally have any money the day after Thanksgiving.

So, what about you? Did you hit the malls on Black Friday? Is it a family tradition? Do you love it? Hate it? Did your wife or husband drag you out?

Tell me about your experience. I love to hear these stories.

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Liking a Lame

Yes, yes, I'm an adult and I shouldn't care what other people think, but I'm grown enough to know that I do.

And not just what they think. I don't like lameness either. But I've decided that lameness is ok, so that I won't be single and barren, yes, I said barren.

Not nerdiness, not geekiness, just plain socially awkward and lame. I'm giving it a whirl because Paul said introverts are cool (Yes, I think introverts are lame, please don't be offended, it's just my very cool opinion. LOL!)

So I wrote the italicized text about 5 months ago when I started dating this lame dude. I kept it in my drafts because I really thought it was going to work out. I wanted to add the ending (or at least a fun middle to the post).

It's still funny so I'm sharing, but the bottom fell out because I couldn't quite deal with his awkwardness (and he was cheap to boot).


Who's having fun chronicling my dating escapades. *raises hand* Oh, it's just me, huh? Oh ok.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

About Yesterday's Post

I have so much to say about it. I'll try to keep it to 10 things.

1. I got that from the Fab Giver and shared it with a lot of my girls. Thank goodness it's not just me.

2. Kelly Cutrone's book is If you need to cry, go outside. Not go outside if you need to cry. As a marketer, this kind of word construction is important to me.

3. I think it's irresponsible of the author to suggest that the sole reason there are NOT more women in the C-suite is because we burn out by 30. This neglects women who choose the family route over the career route, women who choose to stay out of the C-suite (for whatever reason) and the elephant in EVERY room - blatant discrimination.

4. I wish would have followed up with an article about what to DO about women burning out at or around 30. It's good to know that I have company, but *big Pun voice* I'M TRYNA LIVE.

What did you all think about yesterday's article? Or my commentary on it?

Monday, November 21, 2011

Oh, so it's not just me...

Why Millennial Women Are Burning Out At Work By 30
by Larissa Faw

Young professional women may not relate to the financial struggles their Millennial peers are protesting against during the Occupy New York movement. After all, these ambitious go-getters are working as doctors, lawyers, engineers, and advertising executives, blessed with great salaries, health benefits, and paid vacation.

But these women understand the protestors’ frustration and unhappiness over the fact that their lives aren’t supposed to turn out this way. This is why a growing number of young professional women who seem to “have it all” are burning out at work before they reach 30.

These early career flameouts are reflected through the corporate ladder. Today, 53% of corporate entry-level jobs are held by women, a percentage that drops to 37% for mid-management roles and 26% for vice presidents and senior managers, according to McKinsey research. Men are twice as likely as women to advance at each career transition stage. One rationale is that men are more likely than women to do things that help their personal wellbeing at work, thus negating burnout, according to the Captivate Network. Men are 25% more likely to take breaks throughout the day for personal activities, 7% more likely to take a walk, 5% more likely to go out to lunch, and 35% more likely to take breaks “just to relax.”

It seems relaxation is something Millennial women have never experienced. One reason that women are burning out early in their careers is that they have simply reached their breaking point after spending their childhoods developing well-rounded resumes. “These women worked like crazy in school, and in college, and then they get into the workforce and they are exhausted,” says Melanie Shreffler of the youth marketing blog Ypulse.
Many also didn’t think of their lives beyond landing the initial first job. “They need to learn life is a marathon, not a sprint,” says Kelly Cutrone, president of People’s Revolution PR and author of Go Outside If You Need To Cry. Ypulse’s Shreffler adds, “They expected things to be better now that they’ve arrived and made it. But instead they are starting over on the bottom rung and still striving. You can’t see the end of the tunnel because they are so many twists and turns. It’s impossible to see what life will be like in 20 years these days. It’s hard to look just 3-4 years in the future. They don’t know what they are striving for, which makes it really hard to move forward.”

Even those who did plot out their lives past the initial first career have unrealistic expectations about full-time employment. It’s not as if these women expected their jobs to be parties and good times, but many underestimated the actual day-to-day drudgery. “College is nothing more than a baby-sitting service. These students are totally unprepared for the real world. The reality for women who want to work in PR is that they are going to be working with 24 catty [women] who will backstab and compete with them. No one will say thank you. You will eat lunch at 5 p.m. It sucks and it’s hard work,” says Cutrone.

All of this unhappiness has left young women struggling over their next move. Simply quitting or changing careers isn’t an option because the education for their professional jobs has burdened them with substantial student debt. Also, while earlier generations may have opted out of the workforce through marriage or motherhood, these paths aren’t viable for these self-sufficient women, who either are still single or unwilling to be fully supported by men.

Instead, Millennial women are tapping into their Type-A personalities to combat this fatigue. “It’s important to analyze what is causing the dissatisfaction,” says Purdue University’s Teri Thompson. “The old adage, ‘Out of the frying pan and into the kettle’ is filled with wisdom: often we leave a job because of unhappiness and in our zeal to get away, we fall right back into the same traps, the same situations.” Therefore, these women are requesting more flexible schedules or seeking different work responsibilities. Many are turning to therapists and prescription medicines, as well as explore alternative remedies, including acupuncture, yoga, and even psychics.

Ultimately these women are going through the difficult realization that they may have to redefine their goals and come up with different measures of success in order to thrive in the corporate world, says Thompson. “It often takes many years to really understand one’s strengths and where one finds happiness. In a sense, I do think it’s unrealistic to assume a long sought-after job can bring one such happiness that one’s searching is done. We’re all a work in progress; new inputs—from new friends to new places visited—mean we’re constantly changing in our thoughts of what’s desired, what’s possible, what’s fun, what we want to do.”

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Good News For the Weekend

Ok, so we already discussed how Credit Karma is not a credit score in real life? Howsoever, I still check my Credit Karma score feverishly because:

1. It's free
2. If it went up, my real credit score probably went up
3. The site has good tools on it that show how you're doing all in one place - credit and debt wise

So... after staying the same for 6 long months (and essentially sending me clean off since my real credit score is much higher), my Credit Karma score finally went up 10 pts. *do a dance*

It still feels good and I can use all the endorphins I can get. Woot woot!

I'll be excited to check the real score whenever it's necessary. I don't want a car and buying property is becoming less and less attractive to me, so I can't think of a reason I NEED to pay to see my credit score right now. Stay tuned.

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Event Alert: Support a Supporter

There's a lady who's always on the north side (Lincoln Park/Lakeview) asking for money for HIV/AIDS. She has a little can and pins that she gives out if you support. I think her name is Patti. She's short, round (#NoDiss) and has firy kool-aid red hair. If you live in my neighborhood and run weekend errands, you absolutely CANNOT miss her.

What I did not know is that she has singlehandedly raised more than $50,000 for Vital Bridges (the organization I blogged about yesterday). I also found out this weekend that she has cancer and needs help paying for her medical bills.

So the good folks at Vital Bridges put together a fundraiser in her honor.

6-8 p.m.
3359 N. Halsted

I don't know her life, but I know that medical bills are expensive with or without insurance. I also know that it takes a special kind of person to stand on the street and ask for money for someone else. Her selflessness and trustworthiness has shown because she could have taken some of that money to pay her own medical bills - but she didn't.

I'll have my face in the place, if only for a moment. Let me know if you want to roll.

Monday, November 14, 2011

0,000,000 Cured

That crushing statistic stared back at me as I volunteered at the North Side location of Vital Bridges, an organization that supports people in the Chicagoland area living with AIDS/HIV. I've been in a funk lately and decided to get up, get out and do something and boy did that stat give me the swift kick in the butt I needed to remind me that the fight against HIV/AIDS is alive and well.

Do you want to hear another crushing statistic, pre-Obama just over 26% of Americans volunteered at least once per year. Hol' up, Hol' up, Hol' up. You mean to tell me 3 out of 4 people ARE NOT volunteering.

I digress.

Let me tell you a little more about Vital Bridges. Vital Bridges’ mission is to help people throughout metropolitan Chicago impacted by HIV and AIDS to improve their health and build self-sufficiency by providing food, nutrition, housing, case management and prevention services.

Started in 1988, Vital Bridges has provided more than 10 million meals, 600,000 nights of shelter and 250,000 hours of counseling to over 10,000 clients. I friggin' love this organization. It's grassroots, it's full of love and it's run like a well-oiled machine - or organized chaos, however you want to call it. LOL!

I help with the food pantry, which is called Groceryland. A few years ago, I used to volunteer regularly at the South Side location. Now that I'm sans vehicle, I'm moved my efforts over to the north side. Same operating procedure though: Clients come in with grocery lists, we run through the pantry with carts to fill everything out and clients leave with food for the week (or sometimes two weeks).

I volunteer through Chicago Cares, my favorite volunteer org in the Chi. Let me know if you want to come with me one Saturday. Maybe we can have a Tea & Such volunteer day.

So... what's your favorite volunteer project/opportunity?

Thursday, November 10, 2011


This is one of my favorite Twitter tags. There are SO many awkward moments in life. Let me tell you about a few of them here. I decided to try Bikram yoga. I LOVE Hatha yoga and I heard that Bikram was just the very hot version of Hatha. It is not. Long story short, it's 105 degrees or pure bodily torture. It's not easy, it's not relaxing, I do not feel cool, calm and collected when it's over.

I'm a goof and did it not once, but twice. Let me tell you about some of the awkward moments from Bikram yoga.


  • When you take a night class and it smells like the ghosts of every class past

  • When an instructor corrects your pose by touching you, but you're dripping sweat. Ew!

  • When you don't know if the puddle you just slipped in is your sweat or someone else's

  • When some flamboyant man is in the front of the class, with nothing but yoga drawls on, showing off

  • When the class has to do a breathing exercise and all you can think about it hot air on your neck

  • When the instructor singles you out (happens to me in every fitness class, mainly because I'm black, but also because I do the bare minimum) and you have to give them the look of death to get them to leave you alone

  • When the classroom looks full, but someone comes and puts their mat in the itty bitty teeny weeny space RIGHT next to you (man, it's too hot to be this close. Can I breathe?)

  • When you realize the towel you paid $2 for was used by someone else at some point in life.

Needless to say all this sweating with strangers completely creeped me out and I will NOT be going back to Bikram. Next up, I may try boxing.

Friday, November 4, 2011

We Like to Party...

Party is my favorite song on Bey's new album. I actually just play it back to back to back on Saturday morning and well... Saturday nights. It's the perfect Saturday song.

Beyonce is SO FLY and her latest video Party delivers all that flyness in so many ways. First of all, you can tell that they were straight kickin' it in this video. If you know me in real life I hope you heard my voice say that. I'll say it again: *head back, fist to mouth* STRAIGHT. KICKIN' IT!

I'm never mad at a good party.

The other awesome thing about this song is that Party actually means "party" the way ego actually means "ego" in another of Bey's songs. I love Bey for that. Giving us all that sexy, but not being vulgar with it.

And since Vevo is a hater, here's the LINK to the video instead of letting me embed it like YouTube.

Last, but not least, how haute is her make-up in all the scenes. Definitely fun styles that anyone can try and there's a tutorial for Bey's eye shadow over at fashion bomb.

Did I just infuse your morning with all things fabulous or what. Um hm. You're welcome!