Do you know how horrible it is to plan for fewer people than those who show up?
Do you know how horrible it is to plan for MORE people than those who show up? Have you ever seen money wash down a drain?
Why do you RSVP to say yes and then not show up. I know good and well your parents didn't raise you like that. Don't you know people plan for you when you say you're coming. How rude can you possibly be?
Do you respect your friends? You must... they have your home address.
When someone sends you an invite: baby shower, wedding, bar mitzvah, graduation, bachelorette party, bridal shower, happy hour, to take a walk in a damn park, anything... PLEASE RSVP.
As soon as you get the invite in the mail, check your calender, ink it in and call to say you'll be there or immediately call to say you're not coming. But don't have people waiting on your RSVP. I don't want to have to repeat myself.
(And don't blame it on black people either. I have recently found out that it's an across the board problem).