Tuesday, August 31, 2010

3 - Your Parents

My parents are Big T (whom you all should know and love from my awesome posts about her) and John. Big T and John had me when they were young whipper snappers and never married (each other) so I have a stepfather, Sam, who passed away when I was nine (R.I.P. Daddy!), then I have a steppops who my mom is currently married to: Mark. They've been married for almost 14 years (WHOA!).

I don't have enough characters to thoroughly communicate the in and outs of having three father figures. I will just say that HR looks at me sideways every time I tell them a grandparents passes. I told them look, it's eight possible deaths that could come up, chart my PTO accordingly.

I know you all are thinking how can you make such light of death. Go back to the intro post. I have to laugh at life, otherwise I'd go nuts.

And that's about it on parents.

Monday, August 30, 2010

2 - Your First Love

I was going to be silly and say food was my first love and we're still going strong, but I'll tell you about my first love.

I have been in love. I love being in love. And my first love was magical, infactual (is that a word). It was very much puppy love and it was sweet and endearing and phenomenal. He was everything a 17 year old boy could be. He was fine and athletic and he loved me. We met at a basketball game. I approached him (I used to do that in high school). I'm pretty sure I had on a fleece jogging suit and some Nikes. (Please don't front like you didn't used to wear athletic gear in the 90s).

We talked on the phone for hours, seriously... hours. He didn't have a car, but one of his boys did, so he would always come see me and we would frolic in the park like... teenagers (because we were teenagers). LOL! Every once in a while one of his boys would date one of my girls and that was cool.

He ended up going to the army we were together on and off until my first year of college (he was about three years older than me, don't tell the feds). The off time was because my hater of a mother said I was too young to have a boyfriend. Friends, I kid you not, he and I would be married RIGHT now, if it weren't for all those breaks. Instead of him being married to that 3W in Texas... what happened to the men that were dying to get married. I don't run into them anymore... I digress.

I just loved being with him. And we were so young and innocent then. His kisses were the sweetest, most genuine kisses I've ever received. Ever. We didn't require a lot of fanfare, no fancy dinners, he didn't have a car, back-breaking sex wasn't a baseline requirement like it is now (yeah, I said it). We just needed good conversation and quality time, which we both had plenty of.

He had some #realissues though, so I have mom and God to thank for helping me dodge that bullet, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss those kisses and the undeniably secure feeling I had when he was around. I still have all of his letters from the army. I guess he still has a chunk of my heart, which makes sense because no love is your first love.

Oh boy, I'm rambling. He made me like that then and I guess the feeling is still strong now. Yeah, I loved him to pieces.

Friday, August 27, 2010

1 - Introduce Yourself

Hey I'm T or Tea however you want to spell it. I live in Chicago and I work in PR. I'm a sister (big sis and little sis) a daughter, a child of God, an aunt, a friend and a colleague. I don't consider myself a blogger. I'm just a woman with ever-changing opinions and in 2010 this is the vehicle I use to express them.

I was born and raised in the 'burbs about 5 miles west of the city. Depending on who you talk to they'll either say I'm from the West Side or they'll say "quit frontin'" you're from the 'burbs. Chicagoans love to segregate ourselves even further than we're already segregated. I'm a true northsider now, no car, live in a studio, walk to the grocery store or order Peapod, etc.

I'm a Whitney M. Young Magnet High School alum and I also successfully matriculated THE University of Illinois at Urbana/Champaign. #GoDolphins #GoIllini and while we're go-ing I'm a BIG Bears fan. #BearDown

I'm extremely blessed and I try to laugh at myself daily. Not because I'm funny, but life will spit you out and chew you up if everything is SO serious. *Insert Joker Face here*

I think that's all. I also think this is silly since most of the people reading this already know everything I just said, but whatever, I'm sticking to the script. :)

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Actually, I'm Still Here

I stole this from Nerdgirl, who stole it from Babs, who stole it from Mzinspiredmind.

I said if I ever had a lull I would use this. Yesterday's post indicates a lull. This will give me about 6 weeks of posts because I don't post of the weekends unless something special or notable happens. I'm excited.

I will probably write them all in one day and then interrupt for event notices or other must-tell-right-now posts.

I hope you enjoy and don't quit me because I'm busy. :)

Here are the topics:

Day 01 – Introduce yourself
Day 02 – Your first love
Day 03 – Your parents
Day 04 – What you ate today
Day 05 – Your definition of love
Day 06 – Your day
Day 07 – Your best friend
Day 08 – A moment
Day 09 – Your beliefs
Day 10 – What you wore today
Day 11 – Your siblings
Day 12 – What’s in your bag
Day 13 – This week
Day 14 – What you wore today
Day 15 – Your dreams
Day 16 – Your first kiss
Day 17 – Your favorite memory
Day 18 – Your favorite birthday
Day 19 – Something you regret
Day 20 – This month
Day 21 – Another moment
Day 22 – Something that upsets you
Day 23 – Something that makes you feel better
Day 24 – Something that makes you cry
Day 25 – A first
Day 26 – Your fears
Day 27 – Your favorite place
Day 28 – Something that you miss
Day 29 – Your aspirations
Day 30 – One last moment

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Can I Get About a Week?

Oops, I ran out of drafted posts. I'll probably have nothing for you all for about a week. I'm sorry. I'm sick this week though, so rest is on deck. I'm also just plain exhausted. If I have some down time during my Vegas work trip this weekend, I'll try to crank out some posts for you all.

um... read my blogroll while I'm gone. Everyone on there is dope. :)

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Some of Marguerite's Magic

I've been using this instead of Miss Jessie's Curly Buttercreme for my wash-n-go pulled back fro. It's dope. I got it because the price point is much better (I think it's $12.99) and it's available at Sephora and Macy's on State Street. I'm not buying Miss Jessie's until December when it's buy 1 get 1 free. $55 for a jar of Miss Jessie's is not in my budget right now even if it does last a year. I'm trying to decorate my apartment. LOL!

Have you ever tried this? Any new moisturizers or leave-in you'd suggest?

Monday, August 23, 2010

Anthropology Much?

It just occurred to me that I'm not a serial dater. I'm a dating anthropologist. I just tweeted this, but whatever. I need more subjects and more time. I wonder if I could get a research grant.

I want to study the dating habits of 30-something males in a certain income bracket. I mean, I pretty much am already doing this. Oh, I'll write a research paper for some grant money.

So yeah, I may or may not start calling dating studying on here and on Twitter and such.

Friday, August 20, 2010

It's the Weekend Baby!

Not only am I off today, but it's my class reunion weekend AND I have two of my (clique of 7) best friends coming to stay with me. I'm on 10. I loved high school and I met both of my current bffs there. (How fortunate am I that God blessed me with not 1, but 2 bffs #Blessed)

And I don't usually do this, but um... here's a photo (without a yellow smiley face). Cheer love after winning the Chicago City Championships in 90-something. #1 #Dolphins #CheerSquad all day baby. All day!!!

Thursday, August 19, 2010

What's Happening To Me?

Ok, can I have a real moment with y'all right quick?

One day I woke up and was scared to be myself. Either because showing too much of me proved detrimental or because I didn't like who I was. I don't know what day it was, but this unsurity kept coming up and so slowly, but surely I started to be someone else. I think she is better than who I used to be, but the problem is now I don't know who I am. And I don't know who I introduced you to.

And I've heard SO many voices, trusted and otherwise about who I should be and I don't know which ones I listened to while working on who I want to be. Like did any bullshit slip into me (#waitwhat)? And now there's a public record on Tea & Such, on Twitter and on Facebook of who I used to be and I can't seem to convince anyone but the mirror of who I actually am right now.

Fortunately for me, I've always loved the mirror.

So excuse my emo breakdown via blog and let's eToast to the positive changes in my life and people who'll still be here during and after my transformation. And hell, a toast to those who won't. Each person I encounter has a unique purpose if my life. Yeah, let's toast to that.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

What About His Brother?

So in case you hadn't noticed, I leave no stone unturned in my search to date new guys. Match.com, currently doing the Essence summer blind date challenge, I'll date guys I meet... pretty much anywhere. It's not a game out here. I only need one, so I figure the wider my net is cast (#waitwhat) the more will come back to me.

So every time I hear about a woman with a phenomenal husband (My hubby does all the cooking, my hubby plans surprise trips for us, my hubby knows I've been through a lot and he's extremely patient with me and my XX issues.)

Every time, I go "Does he have a brother" and EVERY time she responds. Yeah, but you don't want him. So if there's a family with two fellas one with be the catch the other will be the dog.

So I've got a new tactic. (Oh yes, I employ dating tactics.) If and when I encounter a dog, I'm going to ask if he has a brother. There's a 50/50 chance his brother is the one for me.

If you have a husband already and you are reading this I encourage you, in fact, I think it is your DUTY to help a sister out. :-)

Tuesday, August 17, 2010


RB asked me to write about shoes, so here goes.

I had 3 pairs of black pumps. I ran the 4 inch leather and the 3 inch patent leather right into the ground. The 5 inch platform patent is holding on because it's strictly a club or wedding shoes, so 4, 5 hours at a time on select weekends.

But a new leather pump was in order. Can we pause to talk about how much I love Norstrom. I walk in and say I want a black leather, pointy toe, 4 inch pump, preferably Nine West. They say have a seat. 7 minutes later I'm walking out of the door with my new shoe. (Now it's 3 1/2 inches, not 4, but I was on my lunch break and I'm not picky, LOL!) #GoodCustomerService wins every time.

Monday, August 16, 2010

Tichina Arnold

**I went to NYC this weekend. I'm back home. In the Chi for 10 days before I hit the sky again**

So b.goody said I should write about Tichina Arnold. We might as well just call this Tea & Such & b.goody because she came up with all these crazy topics I should write about and she was playing, but I'll write about ANYTHING, so she should have known better.

Anywho, today we're talking about Tichina Arnold. I didn't really have any feeling about her before I started writing, but after some consideration I have to say I love her. She keeps a low profile, she keeps a job in Hollywood or on TV, she's a single mom and her child doesn't have Dereon splattered across her booty, so as far as I know she's doing a good job.

She has some hits and misses fashionwise, but this just helps me to remember that celebs are real people too. Everyone doesn't have a stylist and isn't all caught up in the hype. She seems to be in shape and her stomach has been flat since Martin and that was over a decade ago, so more kudos.

Last but not least she's still friends with Tisha Campbell Martin. I truly value my friendships, so in Hollywood where everyone is all in your grill and it can be very easy to badmouth a colleague, it's good to Tisha and Tichina (and I think Vivica too) going strong.

Who's your favorite down-to-earth celeb?

Friday, August 13, 2010


**It's Friday the 13th. Dun Dun!!! LOL!**

Tea's tips for not going completely off the deep end when you're overwhelmed. Real talk, this is more of a reference for me than a guide for y'all. Enjoy anyhow.

Do Not:
- Drink
- Go Shopping
- Call people you don't like because you're bored
- Have sex with people you don't like because it'll make you feel better
- Pig out. There are no excuses for fatness.

- Pray, even a whisper to God will usually get the job done
- Cry, let it out baby, let it out
- Exercise, endorphins are king
- Cook a new recipe, having something healthy to eat and something to do will make a world of difference

Do you all have any other tips?

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Ministry of Music

I grew up in a traditional, conservative Baptist church. They taught that preaching is a gift, but music is a talent. At some point they started calling it the "Ministry of Music," but I figured that was a good way to make it seem like all the entertainment that was happening was *preacher voice* OF GAWD. LOL!

I personally believe music is a way to praise God, ministry or not. Thank goodness for the read the bible in a year program. (Which by the way I am SO behind on. Lauren, don't you want to mail me those bookmarks, so I can catch up).

Anywho, I came across 1 Chronicles 6:32 and thought I'd share.

"And they ministered before the dwelling place of the tabernacle of the congregation with singing, until Solomon had built the house of the LORD in Jerusalem: and then they waited on their office according to their order."

What's that you say Bible, they MINISTERED with singing? With music?

*Diddy voice* Take that! Take that!

Man, I wish I could have found this scripture when I was a teen in the choir and they were telling us we couldn't have a service with no preaching.

People get on my nerves making up stuff talking about it's what the bible says. Thanks God for my own understanding. Amen!

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

We All Want The Same Thing

I've been meaning to write about this forever. In January I was in Dallas on client business, I'd flew straight from NYC on (an)other's client business and was tired and hungry. Fortunately hunger won out and I hit up the bar at Aloft Hotel, where I was staying.

There was a guy at the bar. He was really nice. Side note: If I had more time I would go to hotel bars all the time because that's where solo business traveler eat dinner and most business travelers are men.

Back to the story. I talked to this guy and he was going on about how young NBA and NFL players waste their money and it's a shame, blah, blah, blah. As a young woman who's working to improve her money management, I think that most 22 to 25 year olds trick off money (did you know the average time an NFL player plays in the League is only 3 years O_O). The point is I can't badmouth someone who makes 100x what I make if his trickoff percentage is exactly the same as mine.

Back to the really nice guy at the bar. This guy and I had NOTHING in common. I'm black, he's white. I'm young, he was old(er). I'm average height for a woman, he was short. I love working for the man, he's an entreprenur. I'm an Independent with a swing towards Democrats and he's a serious Republican. I'm single as the day is long, he's married with a beautiful young daughter.

How in the world did me and this man who have nothing in common except a love for bbq chicken pizza have a two-hour conversation and not kill each other? It comes down to this: At the end of the day EVERYONE wants to exact same thing.

We all want happy, healthy families.

We can define family and happiness differently, but this man who didn't agree with anything I had to say, loved his work and his family no less than I loved my work and my family. And he respected my opinions based on my experiences and I did to his.

I wish this was the model for politics. I know you want a happy, healthy family and so I respect how you want to get to your happy, healthy family whether it's the same path I want to take or not. And furthermore, I wish we all treated each other with that same respect every day. Like just because my life path takes a different turn than yours or takes place in a different region or tax bracket it doesn't make me better or worse off than you. Just different.

I learned a lot that night. Amazing what a pizza and a Heineken at a hotel bar can do for life's outlook.

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Traditional Robes vs. Snuggies

b.goody's silly behind asked me to talk about why I prefer traditional robes over Snuggies. I'm not one to back down from a challenge so here goes...

First of all let's discuss how stupid I thought Snuggies were when they first came out. I was like what goofy is going to pay for a blanket with sleeves. Then they got popular and I thought about how good of an idea it was. You know whoever made it was high when they came up with it. Sitting in a cold house with no heat. Then they wanted another Cheeto because they had the munchies and when they took their hand from under the blanket, they almost froze to death. You know their senses were heightened because they were so high.

So they hollered at another high friend and then an invention was made. (This is my firt attempt at historical fiction. Pretty dope if I do say so myself. Pun intended.)

Back to the topic at hand, I actually prefer to just wear a robe backwards. The #realissue with a Snuggie is that it's missing a tie (like a real robe). See... I can wear my snuggly robe backwards or forward... A Snuggie... not so much. Now if you're really frugal instead of paying $40, $50 bucks for a plush robe, go get a $19.99 Snuggie and put one of the belts you never wear anymore on it.

Now don't say I never helped you save money.

P.S. In NYC for work today. Pray for my sanity and the safety of everyoen around me. You know folks will drive me crazy if I let 'em.

Monday, August 9, 2010

Best Cupcakes Spots

Cupcakes are so trendy now. I imagine this is how buying coffee outside of the gas station was 15 years or so ago.

So here are Tea's Top 10 Cupcake spots in the Chi. Help me out with 9 and 10, if you please.

11. Foiled
10. The Cupcake Counter*
9. The Cupcake Gallery*
8. @flirtycupcakes (this is a van that drives around with cupcakes)
7. Phoebe's Cupcakes
6. More Cupcakes
5. Sugar Bliss
4. Sweet Mandy B's
3. Molly's Cupcakes
2. The Hershey's Store on Michigan Avenue
1. Sprinkles

*denotes cupcakes that I have NOT tried yet.

Yeah, this is a fat girl post. Quit actin' like you don't like it.

Saturday, August 7, 2010

Back Like I Forgot Something

I've missed you guys! I'm currently sitting at my gym on my laptop about to crank out two or three weeks of posts. After trying to figure out how many Argo Teas I'd have to buy to get hours and hours of internet it occurred to me that my gym has free wireless.

Side note: I'm not switching gyms. I friggin' love this place. It's currently 10:34 a.m. and my yoga class is not until 3 p.m. and I plan to sit here the entire time using this internet.

But, if you recall my laptop is slightly broken. Once it's been on for abo
ut an hour, it works fine, but if it goes to sleep, shuts down or restarts it'll take about an hour for me to get on the internet.

I now live approximately 6 blocks south of my gym. So I left the laptop open, tracked the bus (thank you CTA bus tracker), hopped on it as soon as I got to the stop and got to the gym JUST before my little 15 minute window before the computer shuts off went off. I'm now plugged in and ready for greatness. LOL!

I should have internet by September, so I hope to not leave you all hanging like this again. How has everyone been?

Monday, August 2, 2010

Until Next Time...

I love you guys, but I'm pretty sure I've got nothing for your this week (by way of new blogs). I'm so sorry. With no cable at home and work being absolutely nutty, I just don't have time to edit any of my drafts.

New readers, please feel free to catch up on old posts. While I don't necessarily agree with everything I wrote 2, 3 and 4 years ago, I still find my viewpoints interesting (LOL!) and the comments from my readers are generally off the chain.

Have a good week everyone!