Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Texting

Let's just have a good old fashioned discussion in the comments, shall we?

Text dating, do you vote yes or no?
Is a lot of texting ok after you're in a relationship, but not at the onset of a relationship?
Is a lot of texting ok at the onset of a relationship, but too casual as you get more serious?
Do you plan dates via texts?
Is it ok to plan booty calls via text?
If someone plans a date via text, how do you know it's not a booty call?
When is texting too much texting?
Have you ever had a meaningful relationship (i.e. more than sex) with someone who you text dated? (i.e. texted more than called)
Would you date someone who told you they don't text at all?
Is ignoring a text the same as ignoring a phone call?

I'm gonna reserve my opinions for later, but you KNOW I've got something to say on the topic.

7 comments:

Brown Girl Gumbo said...

Since I'm married, I can't really comment on this subject, but I love the topic. I am a serial texter. Some of my friends/family hate that texting is my #1 way of communicating. I despise talking on the phone so texting has been the best thing ever for me!!!

Wait, I can comment...if I were dating, I'd definitely text ALL the time. If he said that he didn't text then all bets would be off!! hahahahah

Good post as usual!! :-)

ThummyB said...

On the Today show they were talking about the phenomenon that is...SEXTING! LOL!

I really haven't been confronted with this particular issue, but I personally still expect a phone call to be a daily (within a serious relationship) form of communication. You can text as well as call, but a call would be my expectation. In a more casual relationship, I would expect regular calls, but texting in btwn days where we talk would be fine.

Of course, in either situation...my #1 form of communication would be face to face.

kay* said...

oh snap! i have a LOT to say on this topic so allow me to just answer each question...sorry this may be long!

Text dating, do you vote yes or no? overall no

Is a lot of texting ok after you're in a relationship, but not at the onset of a relationship? a lot of texting is NEVER okay but it is more tolerable later in the relationship than in the beginning...


Is a lot of texting ok at the onset of a relationship, but too casual as you get more serious? Nope...to casual in the beginning...should be vice versa if anything.

Do you plan dates via texts? unfortunately i have. but i don't think this is cool. CONFIRMING dates via text is okay - but planning them? nope

Is it ok to plan booty calls via text? HELL NO...text can be misinterpreted so easily...a text that reads "i wanna see you" can sound be read really sexy or really casual - which is it?!!?!?!

If someone plans a date via text, how do you know it's not a booty call? that's the thing! girl we are on the same page...see my answer above.

When is texting too much texting? when you can't remember the last time you actually spoke to the person.

Have you ever had a meaningful relationship (i.e. more than sex) with someone who you text dated? (i.e. texted more than called) nope.

Would you date someone who told you they don't text at all? yeah. i mean heck - texting is a realitvely new thing no? i don't remember texting 8 years ago in my teens...

Is ignoring a text the same as ignoring a phone call? yes. perhaps worse i think because you can usually at least sneak a text in (if you're in class or someplace where you have to be quiet or mindful of others).


whew!
btw - thank you for your comment on my blog anniversary - i laughed out loud :) honoured to have made your blog roll!

Mrs.Young_fashion said...

I wish I could participate, but I don't have texting on my phone. Mommy just don't understand how many things I get left out of. :((

antithesis said...

all i will say is i dont like texting. it's useful if u just have one or two quick things to say but i HATE carrying on text convos. if it's not too rude for you to text repeatedly, then it must not be an issue for you to just pick up and call or just call me later since in an emergency, i doubt someone would text...

T said...

Love the comments so far. Keep 'em coming.

I'll say I used to enjoy texting with men and I hate it now. I think my mind has changed because 1) I've been playing in the kiddie pool and the young'uns take texting to a whole new level. They have abbreviations I've never seen, full querty keyboards, talk to text... It's just bananas.

I also hate text dating lately because 2) when you text too much you miss the tone of someone's voice. I can't tell if people are serious or joking half the time. I get angry at stuff I'm not supposed to be angry about. I laugh at stuff that wasn't supposed to be funny.

Another reasons that I hate texting as of late is 3) because guys use it as an excuse to be inappropriate. It's like they're thinking hmm... it's too late to call her let's see if she responds to this late night text. And not guys I've established relationships with either, new boos. That's right, new boos are hitting me up inappropriately via text. Um... hell to the naw, Bobby.

4) Lastly, I just think it's a lazy way to try to get to know someone. It's perfect for getting information across when you're too busy to call, but I feel like if you're too busy to call, then don't contact me.

And let's not even discuss how some people don't even have anything to say, but still want to text you. Maybe more on that later.

Spiderlgs said...

Text dating, do you vote yes or no?
No!

Is a lot of texting ok after you're in a relationship, but not at the onset of a relationship?

I guess it's okay, I dont really enjoy it. I think texts are fun throughout the day, but what we need to text convo for?

Is a lot of texting ok at the onset of a relationship, but too casual as you get more serious?

Its all the same, but I think more risky in the beginning because you aren't sure whats what yet. But I dont think texting is too casual for anyone but my boss.

Do you plan dates via texts?
No.
Is it ok to plan booty calls via text?ow.
Don't do those, so I cant speak.

If someone plans a date via text, how do you know it's not a booty call?

Time of day, content of plans.

When is texting too much texting?
When you get annoyed cause I haven't responded to your text.

Have you ever had a meaningful
relationship (i.e. more than sex) with someone who you text dated? (i.e. texted more than called)

No, why wouldnt I call someone if I like texting them so much.

Would you date someone who told you they don't text at all?

Sure. I mean when it comes to deal breakers, that is hardly one.

Is ignoring a text the same as ignoring a phone call?

Its not ignoring when its a text.. its just doing it later. Like when I look at my e-mail and don't respond right away. And what's wrong with ignoring a call anyway?