Wednesday, April 29, 2009

But Why?

I guarantee you I'm not trying to be funny, I'm just trying to understand something.

Why do adults who are not engaged and do not have kids together take couples photos?

Now parents take yearly photos of kids so they can see their growth and because they don't want their kids to be the only kids in the school to not get photos. Teenagers take photos at the mall because they don't have anything else to do and they actually collect and distribute wallet size photos and show them to people while en route to and from school. I have a stack of those bad boys from high school.

[I think] Engaged adults take photos so they can display them at their wedding and because the engagement is a celebratory time that they will [hopefully] never experience again, so they want to capture the moment.

Families (married or not) take photos for the same reason that parents have their kids take photos, to show growth over time and because grandma will always complain that she doesn't have any recent photos of your from Sears. (Gotta love grandmas).

But, in 2009, why do grown adult couples that are not engaged and do not have kids together take couples photos? Who are you going to give that photo to? Would you carry a photo of a couple in your wallet? Who would you show it to? "Oh this is my girl thummyb and her man, this is b.enchanted and her boo, this is PyT and her sigfig, um... no!"

And don't say it's just to put on facebook either, because people have been doing this way before facebook. There is a fundamental thought process that I just don't get. Is a couples photo like a promise ring?

I've never been coupled up long enough for a photo shoot to come up, but if I was and my honey said let's go take couples pictures, I would just ask why? Don't get me wrong, I love a good photo opportunity, but I think Kodak and Fuji can get it done. Why the Sears/Walmart/Target/Super K-mart photos?

Have you taken couples photos? Seriously, please tell me what you think.

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

It's the Little Things

I've been so busy I nearly forgot about my birthday this year (It's today). I didn't totally forget, but I was considering not celebrating it in the Chi because I'm going to France two days later. Anyone who knows me knows that's completely out of character because my birthday is kind of a big deal. :P

So anyway, I'm doing something cozy, no evite, no facebook invites, no pretentious swanky bar, just a Tuesday happy hour with good people, good drinks and good times.

Since I'm not making a big deal, I figured everyone else forgot. Then I logged on to ING Direct and they had a happy birthday message on my homepage. Awwwww! You know my sentimental ass LOVED it! Chase has never wished me a happy birthday. LaSalle Bank never wished me a happy birthday. DSW, Victoria's Secret & The Melting Pot always wish me a happy birthday, but that's just because they want me to come spend money (I do, but I'm just sayin').

ING Direct is so sincere. Not only do they give you a ridiculously high interest rate and send notes about money management (and give out free coffee in their cafes), but they send happy birthday messages to customers wanting NOTHING in return.

*singing like India Arie* It's the little things and the joy they bring.

***UPDATE*** ING definitely just sent me an e-mail saying happy birthday and just for my birthday I can get 15% off anything in the ING store. LOL! Everyone's in it for the money.

Happy Birthday to me!

Monday, April 27, 2009

Bald headed

Yeah, I cut all my hair off (especially on the right side).

I kind of love it though. :)

Friday, April 24, 2009

Quotes of the week

1. Aw shit son (NY accent and all)
- 4S, I can't even explain the context


2. "I need to get out the house, been on that boo shit for a couple weekends."
- Anonymous

Good Lord, I love my girls!!!


Background: I'm going to France in a few days. Have I mentioned that on teaandsuch? Digressing... Well, when I tell people about my upcoming trip they keep saying stuff like "wow, I wish," "must be nice" and "I'm so jealous." So yesterday I responded:

3. "You should be jealous, it's an awesome trip."


I giggled a little when I said it and I didn't even realize that those types of comments bothered me until I reacted so callously, but... what the hell am I supposed to say when people say they're jealous of my cool job, my paid time off, my extensive travel, my no-kids-go-where-I-want-do-what-I-want lifestyle? I AM pretty effing fabulous. I need to develop a friendlier key message to deal with the constant commentary on my fabulousity. LMAO!

Thursday, April 23, 2009

Do you remember?

I have a crazy memory. My short term memory sucks, but when it comes to numbers I remember SO much. This post was sparked when I surprised myself by dialing a colleague's number by heart.

Note: I don't mean the short extensions of people I work with or numbers I recognize when they pop up on my caller I.D. at work (which sometimes omits names). This is a list of numbers I could dial (all 10 digits) off the top of my head with no extra information:

Family: Mom's cell; two land lines at mom's house; stepfather's cell; maternal grandma (don't trip, my paternal grandma changed her number last year after having the same number for 30+ years); Sam's cell, Josh's cell

Friends: thummyb, P (R's P), Nicol's mom's house (random, I know)

Colleagues: Two people I talk to way too much in NYC.

And that's it. Everyone else's number I can't remember. That's actually pretty sad given the brain's capacity to remember things, but I also know most of my credit card and bank account numbers by heart, so you all's phone numbers will have to stay stored safely with Verizon 'nem.

Question of the Day is who's number(s) do you remember by heart?

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Have You Ever...

Got this from Kay. I dig it. Do it on your blog if you like. I've highlighted everything I've done. Enjoy.

1. Started your own blog
2. Slept under the stars
3. Played in a band
4. Visited Hawaii
5. Watched a meteor shower
6. Given more than you can afford to charity
7. Been to Disneyworld/Disneyland

8. Climbed a mountain
9. Held a praying mantis
10. Sang a solo
11. Bungee jumped
12. Visited Paris
13. Watched a lightning storm at sea
14. Taught yourself an art from scratch
15. Adopted a child
16. Had food poisoning
17. Walked to the top of the Statue of Liberty
18. Grown your own vegetables
19. Seen the Mona Lisa in France
20. Slept on an overnight train
21. Had a pillow fight
22. Hitch hiked
23. Taken a sick day when you were not ill
24. Built a snow fort
25. Held a lamb
26. Gone skinny dipping
27. Run a marathon
28. Ridden in a gondola in Venice
29. Seen a total eclipse
30. Watched a sunrise or sunset
31. Hit a home run Side note: HA!
32. Been on a cruise
33. Seen Niagara Falls in person
34. Visited the birthplace of your ancestors
35. Seen an Amish community
36. Taught yourself a new language
37. Had enough money to be truly satisfied
38. Seen the Leaning Tower of Pisa in person
39. Gone rock climbing
40. Seen Michelangelo’s David
41. Sung karaoke
42. Seen Old Faithful geyser erupt
43. Bought a stranger a meal at a restaurant
44. Visited Africa
45. Walked on a beach by moonlight
46. Been transported in an ambulance
47. Had your portrait painted

48. Gone deep sea fishing
49. Seen the Sistine Chapel in person
50. Been to the top of the Eiffel Tower in Paris
51. Gone scuba diving or snorkeling
52. Kissed in the rain
53. Played in the mud
54. Gone to a drive-in theater
55. Been in a movie
56. Visited the Great Wall of China
57. Started a business
58. Taken a martial arts class
59. Visited Russia
60. Served at a soup kitchen
61. Sold Girl Scout Cookies
62. Gone whale watching
63. Got flowers for no reason
64. Donated blood, platelets or plasma
65. Gone sky diving
66. Visited a Nazi Concentration Camp
67. Bounced a check
68. Flown in a helicopter
69. Saved a favorite childhood toy
70. Visited the Lincoln Memorial
71. Eaten Caviar
72. Pieced a quilt
73. Stood in Times Square
74. Toured the Everglades
75. Been laid off from a job
76. Seen the Changing of the Guards in London
77. Broken a bone
78. Been on a speeding motorcycle
79. Seen the Grand Canyon in person
80. Published a book
81. Visited the Vatican
82. Bought a brand new car
83. Walked in Jerusalem
84. Had your picture in the newspaper
85. Kissed a stranger at midnight on New Year’s Eve
86. Visited the White House
87. Killed and prepared an animal for eating
88. Had chickenpox
89. Saved someone’s life
90. Sat on a jury
91. Met someone famous
92. Joined a book club
93. Lost a loved one
94. Had a baby Side note: HA!
95. Seen the Alamo in person
96. Swam in the Great Salt Lake
97. Been involved in a law suit
98. Owned a cell phone
99. Been stung by a bee

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Tax Code

Our new president wants to have higher taxes on folks that make more than 250K per year. Some folks are saying, hey, 250K is not doing bad, but that's not wealthy either... why are you taxing the upper class?

Other folks are saying, rich and wealthy are relative terms and the money has to come from somewhere and the taxing has to start at a certain level, so tough cookie to the $250,001/year folks.

I had a similar conversation with a friend who was raised by a single parent. When we were in college, he noted that anyone who lived in a household that made more than 100K per year is rich and should be able to pay for college. I was that person living in that household and my mom and stepfather essentially told me iaintgonebeabletodoit, when it came to paying for college.

[Bitter side note: The government paid his whole tuition and I'm still paying two car note's worth of student loans each month, putting him on a faster track for amassing wealth.]

Sorry, got sidetracker... The point is he was on the outside looking in, so he didn't notice that raising five kids costs a lot of money, not to mention the cost of living, private school tuition for my little brothers and a small vacation every five years or so. He wasn't trying to hear anything I was talking about though. He heard 100K and thought about what his mom made and said we must've been squandering our money away.

Now the couple in the article linked above has the same argument I had with my boy, but making 250K, not 100K. They have $1200 of disposable income each month, but still feel that that's just comfortable, not wealthy.

Also, here's a copy of the current tax code (got this from someone who commented on a post, so it could be all wrong)

10%: from $0 to $8,025
15%: from $8,026 to $32,550
25%: from $32,551 to $78,850
28%: from $78,851 to $164,550
33%: from $164,551 to $357,700
35%: $357,701 and above

What say you? Is 250K wealthy no matter what? Is some other amount of money wealthy no matter what? Do you believe in the current tax code?

Personally, I believe in a flat tax. I really do. I also believe in the scripture to whom much is given, much is required. And I would argue that if I make 1 million dollars and you tax 25%, much HAS been given. If someone makes $10,000 and you tax 25%, little has been given.

I know all the bible heads are about to kill me for this, but you know the story where the woman only had a penny or something and she put it in the church and then a rich man came and put less than 1% of his income or something in, but it was still WAY more money literally than her little penny. Then Jesus said the woman really gave more figuratively because that was all she had... I'm not saying Jesus is wrong, I'm saying YES, she gave more, but it's not like it was difficult for her give.

What was she going to do with that penny anyway? She wasn't going to get good interest on it. She couldn't invest with that bad boy. She probably couldn't even buy food. So she's looking at that penny like yeah, I might as well throw this at the church and see if Jesus can make it do what it do...

I'm just sayin'

Monday, April 20, 2009

Aesop's Fables

So my boy was telling me a little fairy tale about how he was at a party and his girl's girl was interested in his boy (Keep up now). And his girl said I think your boy likes my girl. To which he replied: no, you've confused "like" with "would have sex with."

My question to the masses is how does one make sure not to confuse "like" with "would have sex with"?

This is so funny because I would instinctively think that someone who wants to have sex with me would like me, but my boy noted that liking someone and liking them enough to have sex with them are two totally different things.

I'll start the tip giving (most of these apply to males and females):

- If you only text date, the person you're texting probably just wants to have sex with you.
- If you only get phone calls from someone when it's dark outside, then said caller probably just wants to have sex with you.
- If the person says "I just want to have sex with you" then they probably JUST want to have sex with you.

LOL! Have fun in the comments.

Friday, April 17, 2009

Tea's Tangents: Philly Airport Edition

Happy Friday! The older I get the more respect I have for this day. You'd think the novelty would wear off, but nope Friday is still so exciting... so many possibilities for the weekend... so many ways to leave the office early... so many blueberry muffins to eat in the kitchen. :)

Anywho, here are today's tangents (written and/or conceived in the Philly Airport on Tuesday night)

1. I'm so sick of traveling, but as you'll see from the upcoming tangents, I don't know that I'd have anything to talk about (or time to think about what to talk about) if I didn't travel so much.

2. I keep seeing ads for JCPenney's and the clothes are super wack. The ad says "dresses for just $24.99" and I'm thinking CLEARLY.

3. I had an American Airlines flight for 7:10 out of Philly. At 4:05 p.m. it was delayed until 7:45. I called the good folks at American to see if I could get on an earlier flight. Unfortunately, the only other flight was at 4:15. Fortunately, that flight was delayed until 6:05. They booked me on it, free of charge, then I got to the airport and it was delayed until 6:40. We boarded the plane at about 6:30. We then proceeded to sit on the runway for a full hour, we were like 15th in line for takeoff. We took off at about 7:30 and I didn't even check to see what time my 7:10 flight ACTUALLY left out of Philly if at all. I don't want to know.

4. I read in the RedEye that American is the worst airline when it comes to ontime departure. And here I thought O'hare was the problem. Well... it is, but American and O'hare equals a formula for absolute lateness.

5. My co-worker's Southwest flight was delayed from 5:40 to 8:55 on Southwest though.

6. I spent a good 20 minutes walking to every food place in the Philly airport looking for a chocolate chip cookie. I had already eaten, but couldn't find a cookie to save my life. I didn't want the little mini-Oreos. I didn't want those puffed up oatmeal raisin cookies from Guava Java that looked like they'd been there all day. I didn't want something cookie-esque. I wanted the real deal.

I finally found said chocolate chip cookie and the experience was anticlimactic to say the least. I think they could've baked that bad boy a little longer. I still ate it with the soggy middle and all and just kept the empty wrapper in my purse in case I died of food poisoning, so you all could have a clue.

7. This is random, but I leave clues about everything everywhere. A Law and Order episode about me would last about 5 minutes. They'd be like she ate the cookie, left the wrapper in her purse with crumbs that we can test in the lab, saved a draft about said cookie to her blog and died. DUN DUN!

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Rate in order...

How would you rank these albums (Please explain). They're in alpha order by first name now, but I'll put my ranking (and explanation) in the comments at the end of the day. :)

Erykah Badu - Baduism
Jill Scott - Who is Jill Scott?
Lauryn Hill - The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill
Mary J. Blige - My Life


First of all, I think these are all tied at 1, but when forced to rank, my ranking is the same as Nerd Girl's but for slightly different reasons.

1. Baduism - For this to be Ms. Badu's freshman project, I really think it stood out. There was nothing else like it out at the time (that I knew about)
2. The Miseducation - Lauryn Hill's album was also unique. It was fresh and to this day I can listen to this over and over without skipping any songs.
3. Who Is Jill Scott? - Jill is MY girl. I love her, but I just think she wasn't as original as Ms. Badu and Ms. Hill.
4. My Life - This album is also off the chain, but it wasn't MJB's freshman project, so it has to go last for me. What's the 411 doesn't even start to compare to the others. Don't trip though, this album gets played on repeat as well.

Lastly, this isn't my question. Stole it from a guy that asked it to me on a date.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

CNN Eye Candy

Why are the CNN black male anchors so fine? (anchors, not correspondents, LOL!) I have a little crush on Don Lemon and TJ Holmes. HEY!!!

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Michigan Avenue Store Closings

The Pottery Barn - Closed

Victoria Secret - Closing on Michigan Avenue and Chicago when they re-open where Pottery Barn used to be (supposedly summer '09)

Borders - Closing by Jan 2010 (wonder what they are going to do with that space since only Filene's will be left. YIKES!)

The Disney Store - Closing by Jan 2010

Ethels Chocolate - (In the Nordstrom mall... all Chicagoland Ethel's are closing)

***UPDATE*** Can't believe I forgot this one, but Starbucks between Erie and Huron also closed late last year. This is not due to the economy, but to the new condos that are being built. The condo association/builder/whomever didn't want any outside businesses in their complex. This is stupid as hell from a business standpoint if you ask me, but hey, maybe they know something I don't.

Damn economy... Michigan Avenue's about to start looking broke down like State Street. Womp.

Monday, April 13, 2009

Tea's Tangents

Side note: I'm in Philly for a couple of days. I really want to be in the Chi, but hey, at least it's about 15 degrees warmer. :)

1. My niece was born last week. April 6th, 11:37 p.m. 5lbs, 11 oz. Healthy and beautiful. Her name is Samantha Lei. (YAY I got another Sam!)

2. I was on the bus stop waiting to go see said niece at the hospital and there was a butch chick smoking a blunt with her pregnant friend, who was also smoking the blunt. Who chiefs on the bus stop? Who chiefs pregnant? If I didn't value my face [and my life] so much I would have told her how I think she's a pathetic excuses of a life...

3. Did Chris Brown really wear a sweater to his court date? It was a stri-ped sweater (yes, stri-ped, not striped), but a sweater none the less. Dude you just beat up your superstar girlfriend and your punk ass couldn't even put on a suit? I hate this story more and more each day.

4. I know I'm late, but this has been sitting in my drafts for a few days... Congrats to MJ for making the hall of fame. He's so awesome that I think no one should have been inducted the year he was inducted. He said that he didn't want to be inducted for another twenty years because being inducted means you can't play. He's so messed up in the head that I can't wait to read his autobiography, memoir, biography, whatever.

I also know I'm about to get railroaded for speaking poorly of a man every other man idolizes, but y'all know he's messed up in the head and that doesn't mean he's not the greatest athlete of all time.

Friday, April 10, 2009

[Michelle] Obama Friday

Is my first lady fly as hell or what? The thing that I love about her is that she really doesn't look like anyone else. It's no secret that I think Cindy McCain is fly and Sarah Palin's wardrobe (no matter how illegally financed) was flyer than a mutha, but they both look like cookie cutter images of politicians or wives of politicians.

I truly believe Michelle Obama is an original. And she's so damn classy. I couldn't have picked a better women to be on the world stage representing all of America, all of American women, all black women in America and most importantly, me.
Check out these slideshows of her U.K. fashion choices

And to the naysayers that say we (Tea, other bloggers and the main stream media) shouldn't be discussing her style, that we should instead be discussing her intellect, I say thanks for that opinion, but I respectfully disagree. If someone has no style, then people don't discuss it (cough*Laura Bush*cough). If someone's fly as hell, people talk about it.

Mrs. Obama's super flyness doesn't negate her degrees, her experience, her strength, her fine mothering skills, nor her place in society as the premier first lady! I'd argue that her style is the icing on her super-fly cake.

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Blessing in Disguise...

I've been on hold with *insert company here* for 15 minutes (Losers!). I got a notice in the mail on Monday that my interest rate was going from a fixed 4.9% to a variable 10.61%. It doesn't clearly explain what the variable rate is based on. Most variable rates are based on the prime rate, this card, not so much.

I talked to them on Monday and it seemed my only options were to 1) pay the higher rate or 2) close the card and keep the rate. I rarely use the card and I have other cards with more history, so I don't mind closing it on those accounts. But I'm worried about my debt to available credit ratio. If I close the card it'll go down by about 40%, which will put a huge dent in my fabulous credit score.

I was reading the MSN Money board (you are what you read) and came across a topic about this. Another consumer said BOA told him closing the card wouldn't be reported to the credit bureaus until he's finished paying it off. If that's the case, I'll close this bad boy swiftly. If not, I'm between a rock and a hard place. That's what I'm currently on hold to talk to them about.

I'm livid, pissed, furious and most of all hurt. My rate increased because I pay my all of my bills on time, resulting in a good credit score and because I carry a large balance on this card. That makes me an easy target for them to get more money from since they aren't going to get any money from people who are delinquent or file bankruptcy or who don't carry balances. Been on hold for 23 minutes now.

I've been following the Suze Orman method for paying my credit cards off, which is to pay the card with the highest interest rate first (rather than the card with the highest balance). You pay a lot on the high interest rate cards and the minimum balance on all the others. It's worked so far, I've paid 4 credit cards off in about 16 months. I'm very proud of myself, but I feel like I've just been punched in the stomach with this news.

29 minutes later... just got off the phone with them and guess what, I do NOT have to close the card to reject the charge. You already know what I'm doing... the stanky legg. This is a little blessing in disguise because truth be told, I spend just enough on this card monthly, so that I don't go over my credit limit, pay the minimum balance, and then do it again. (Don't tell my big brother, he'd be disappointed if he knew I was still using it.)

Update from BOA is that the card stays open on my credit report and all I have to do is not use it. If I use it, that means I accept the terms and conditions. They're sending me a letter in writing to say that they understand that I rejected the charge. AND once the card is paid off I'll have more leverage to get a lower fixed rate (or keep the rate I have).

Please believe, I took a pause from writing this entry to cut that bad boy up into tiny little pieces, so I can't see how using the card will be a problem.

I'll be credit card debt free by December 31st, 2010!!! Don't trip it's only 20 months away. 20 months ago (August 2007) seems like yesterday... remember D's wedding, NYC with PyT and Kel? Yeah, it'll breeze by. I'm so excited.

Thank You Lord for turning something that could have been seen as negative into a financial blessing for me. AMEN!

Quote of the Day

"I couldn't come to the happy hour on Friday because I had a hair appointment"
Anonymous grown ass man

Event Alert: Spring Fling

Clutch Bags and Ms. Catwalk have teamed up for "A Spring Fling"

Saturday, April 11th
4-8pm (I'd go closer to 6pm, than 4 pm)

Ms. Catwalk Boutique
2042 N. Damen
They'll be bringing out new spring arrivals and will be raffling off prizes throughout the evening. Adult beverages and light appetizers will be served.

Get your spring on!

Monday, April 6, 2009


Do you tip at restaurants? Do you tip well?

Well, statistically, black women are the worst tippers. I personally believe that it's a self-fulfilling prophesy. Waiters and waitresses know the statistics, so they treat groups of black women poorly. Groups of black women don't take well to being treated poorly and will not only omit a tip, but will have a waitress wanting to commit suicide at the end of the night.

I, personally, cannot STAND when people don't tip. And by tipping I mean 15 or 20% of the bill, not enough to round out your credit card tab, not whatever change is left, not $5 no matter what the bill is, not a sassy note on the napkin. I feel like it's my personal mission to tip, tip 20% and when possible tip more than 20% to 1) be seen as an individual and 2) to combat this wack statistic.

I believe since the tip is a part of someone's salary that I don't have the right to take away from that. If the meal was $10, I'm going to pay $2 no matter how the service was. IMO, my right is to complain (and complain I do when it's warranted). The same as a client, co-worker, managee or intern would complain if I was effing up. They don't have the right to dock my pay, but if what I did was grotesque, they have the right to get me fired or put a check on my spotless file.

I make mistakes daily. We all do. So if someone was slow with my water or forgot to put my order in, it's no less than me forgetting to spell check on a press release or missng a deadline. (P.S. your girl doesn't miss deadlines, just FYI).

It's also my personal goal to talk about the statistic to sistas so they can join the mission and talk about the statistic in mixed company so people can explain to their waiter and waitress friends to stop treating sistas like crap at restaurants so we can stop tipping like crap.

What's your take on it? (Good Lord, I hope I've changed your mind if you don't tip.)

We have a QB!!!

That's right folks. The Bears finally threw down some cheddar for a pro bowler... ON OFFENSE!!! Oh boy, I don't know that I could be more excited. This is the second time in three days that I've done the stanky legg.

I was getting off the plane in Chicago coming from San Antonio and I get a text from my baby brother with the news.


Friday, April 3, 2009

SET Magazine

Side note: I am currently in the San Antonio airport making my way back to the Chi (or on a plane, or in the Chi, depending on when you read this). Pray for safe travels and sanity. :P

Have you seen SET Magazine yet. It's stands for Sports and Entertainment Magazine and I must say I rather enjoy reading it. The above is the premier issue. I've also read the second issue which has Gilbert Arenas on the cover. It's a lifestyle magazine (think Essence, Glamour, Redbook) that focuses on Sports (athletes, athlete's wives/gfs, and all things sports). It's not manly like Sports Illustrated, but it's not overly feminine like Cosmo.

This mag reminds me of Vibe Vixen. It was a women's lifestyle magazine, but dealing with all things Hip-Hop. (Oh, how I wish it was still in production).
I've talked to the Editor-in-Chief [for work] and she's a real business woman. Works tirelessly on the mag and deserves every success coming to her. Please grab a subscription or at least a copy of the mag.
What's your favorite mag? Any of your favorites been discontinued?

Thursday, April 2, 2009

Book of the Week: Expect to Win

I just finished Expect To Win. It's EXCELLENT. Carla Harris contributes to the work section in Essence, which is where I first saw the credits for this book. Carla Harris is a Wall Street vet. She's a sister, and she's sharp, genuine and never condescending. Her advice in the book sounds like it's coming from a close mentor, someone who really wants to see you succeed.

She concludes each chapter with Carla's Pearls. These pearls are chapter summaries and little sayings that she uses in real life mentoring and coaching. Don't be surprised if you see a bunch of these sentences as post-it notes taped to my computer at work.

I couldn't pick a favorite chapter because I loved EVERY chapter of this book.

If you're interested in taking your career to the next level, I highly recommend this book. Do you have any professional book recommendations?

Wednesday, April 1, 2009


Let's just have a good old fashioned discussion in the comments, shall we?

Text dating, do you vote yes or no?
Is a lot of texting ok after you're in a relationship, but not at the onset of a relationship?
Is a lot of texting ok at the onset of a relationship, but too casual as you get more serious?
Do you plan dates via texts?
Is it ok to plan booty calls via text?
If someone plans a date via text, how do you know it's not a booty call?
When is texting too much texting?
Have you ever had a meaningful relationship (i.e. more than sex) with someone who you text dated? (i.e. texted more than called)
Would you date someone who told you they don't text at all?
Is ignoring a text the same as ignoring a phone call?

I'm gonna reserve my opinions for later, but you KNOW I've got something to say on the topic.