Tuesday, March 31, 2009

Go Me!!!

I just paid off credit card 4 of 6. That's right folks, yet another $0 balance is staring back atcha girl! WHOOO!!

I was going to say do a happy dance, but instead I think we should all Stop. Pause. And then DO THE STANKY LEGG!!!

Monday, March 30, 2009

Sometimes I wonder

I'm in San Antonio for the week. I will eat some wonderful tasting Mexican food just for you.

Anyway, random stuff always occurs to me while I'm alone. Here are just few.

Sometimes I wonder...

- Why the plastic containers that yogurt comes in are never recyclable. You'd think such a wholesome product would be more responsible.

- How homeless people can afford cigarettes

- If it's a sin to buy designer denim when there are people starving

- If people can hear me humming the song in my head when I walk to the bus stop

- If my neighbors think I'm nuts for shouting at the TV while watching sports by myself

- How loud am I when I'm on my cell phone. Am I as loud... HER?

- Why people answer the phone when they're busy. [Don't pick up the phone all exasperated... just call me back later.]

- Why people don't answer the phone when you call them because they're on the way to meet you. I could be calling to ask where you're at OR I could be having a life-threatening emergency. Pick up the phone!

What are some random things you wonder?

Friday, March 27, 2009

Shecky's Event Recap

Shecky's Girl's Night Out was really fun. X-Rated, Midori and Skyy Vodka were sponsors and the kept the drinks flowing. There were also beer tasting and pairings every half hour.

There were basically a bunch of fab vendors there with clothing, jewelry, shoes and other ultra feminine accessories. Some were local (Ms. Catwalk was there), some were online stores only, others were from other parts of the country. The free tickets I won also got me and thummyb stocked goodie bags. YAY!

Here are my top 10 faves of the night. I'm going to alternate between goodie bag products and vendors. (Actually my absolute favorite will not get a shout out because I don't need folks shopping where I'm shopping. Wedding season is approaching, I'm not trying to look like everyone else.)

10. The randomness including products from O.B., Durex and Splenda.

9. Haji Couture - They had the most fabulous feather earrings.

8. Sleep Scentsations - These are scent stickers that you put on your pillow (under the pillow case). I used it right away, but I still don't know how I feel about it. It's like sleeping on top of a box of bounty. I'm indifferent, but it still deserves a shout.

7. Pickadilly - No, this is not the liquor store in Champaign. It's actually a cute baby gift boutique. If you have a baby shower coming up, you'll definitely have the cutest gift if you get it from here.
6. Yes to Carrots Moisturizing Body Scrub - I haven't tried it yet, but I might de-winterize these feet this weekend, so looking forward to the opportunity. LOL! P.S. is it just me or are they everywhere right now? I checked the manufacturer and it's not one of the big boys (Univerler, P&G or SCJohnson. It's just Yes To Ltd.) Way to bust on to the scene!

5. Coco Irene - All the pieces at this boutique had very vintage look to me. Every piece was fabulous, but if you're looking for something different (and fabulous), you can definitely find it here. Don't let the models fool you either, I think a sister owns this boutique. (A sister who knows how to market products, I should say).

4. Sweet Cosmo Lip Polish - I haven't tried it yet, but there a mirror on the side of the tube. LOVES IT!!!

3. Paoo - They're jewelry was SO fabulous. And unique. I'm looking at the Web site and kicking myself for not buying the stuff at the showing, which was 40% off. There was also a lot of silver and costume jewelry for the low (like $10-$100), which I cannot find on the Web site. Womp.

2. Schick Intution razor - I think BGG has talked about this before. I said it before and I'll say it again, I LOVE this razor. The moisturizing bar is THE BEST!!! Best part is that the free gift came with a coupon. (I'm on a budget out here folks)

1. Clutch Bags Online - This sister gets number one because instead of asking me if she could help me, she introduced herself to me. Firm handshake and everything. I don't remember her name, but I remember her shop and I know if I ever needed a bag she'd look out. I don't know if these bags were name brand or not, but they were CA-YUTE. I'm not a labels whore, so as long as it's fly, doesn't matter who made it.

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Digging in the Crates

Side note: Go here to grade our new President. :)

Remember this? Back when Beyonce couldn't dance, LOL!

Hurry up and watch it before embedding is "disabled by request"

Wednesday, March 25, 2009

5 Quick Things Big Mike Thinks You Should Know

5. 2K a year is a wack raise. LOL!

4. You should be careful how you treat people you work with (i.e. someone you manage may get a promotion and will transfer their work and that funky attitude right back to you with the quickness. you have been warned.)

3. Your girth (i.e. if you're fat don't sit next to him on the Metra. LOL!)

2. That you can't always date the cool guy or model chic (sometimes you just happen to like fat folks, soft guys and butch girls and that's O.K.)

1. The environment in which you work or play (For example in Atlanta ANY straight dude can get action because of the lack of straight dudes down there, in Miami... not so much)

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Guns and Such

A friend's facebook status says that someone got shot in the Walgreens on 71st and Jeffery on Saturday. That's right folks, INSIDE of the store. Hoodlums don't even give a damn about security cameras or innocent bystanders anymore. I can't find a link to the news, but that doesn't mean it didn't happen.

This is one of my favorite posts. Mainly because it sparked so much intelligent debate. What we all want is fewer killings and safer streets in Chicago, but we can't agree on the proper way to do that and there are honestly good arguments on both sides.

Lawmakers can't agree either. Students from Simeon H.S., Howard University and Stanford University went to Springfield last week to lobby for House Bill 48, which would ban private handgun sales and establish universal background checks for gun buyers.

This student action really touched me because I typically feel helpless when it comes to violence in the community. I usually feel the only thing I can do is live further away from where the violence is taking place (gun violence on the north side is much less prevalent, so I feel safe where I live). Me being safe, however, doesn't help these innocent children who have no choice in where they live (or their parents who probably don't have much of a choice either).

So the actions of these students have inspired me to do something about gun violence in the Chi. I figure there are three things I can do:

1) Bring light to the problem and hopefully inspire action in others (that means you, thanks for reading!)

2) Reach out to my state and federal legislators to let them know eliminating gun violence in Chicago is a priority and I expect them to be working towards a solution. (If you want to reach out as well, find local legislator info here)

3) Mentor a child. I think I'm one of the few people in my many circles who doesn't officially mentor a child. It's time for me to get off my tush and make time for the kids. If I can keep one kid of the street, I think it'll be well worth it. (Holler at me, if you have a good recommend for an organization through which to mentor a child)

Monday, March 23, 2009

Did I Do That?

So, I was at a triple birthday party on Saturday. Two of my girls and a girlfriend of theirs. Homegirl # 1 is married to a man in a fraternity. Homegirl #2 is dating one of his frat brothers from the same chapter. So naturally a bunch of members of their frat also came out to celebrate. It was a college reunion of sorts, everyone's sitting around, drinking, having a wonderful time.

I walk in about an hour after all my peeps got there and the first thing they do is hook me up with my buddy Pat, Patron that is. So the drinks get to flowing and everyone's feeling WON-DER-FUL.

In walks another of their frat brothers and he's on a date. *side eye* Now, you can't just be bringing new dates to parties without giving folks fair warning. We're a tight knit group of folks and, though I'd love to say we welcome everyone with open arms, that's not necessarily the case. Now folks, not only was she new, she was white.

T, OMG, how can you even call out that she was white? You're a reverse racist for saying that. What if you were dating a white guy and his friends called you out like that on a blog? Are you going to treat your kids, brothers and/or nieces gfs and bfs like that... OMG, T, OMG?

Yeah, yeah, yeah now that you're finished judging me, let me just reiterate that I have no philisophical problem with interracial dating. I found out that night that I have an emotional problem with it, but I can't control my emotions, only my reactions and I had no intention of reacting. None whatsoever. The problem is you can be extremely well intentioned, but what you can't do, is plan a reaction for the unexpected. Stuff just comes up and you're like oh boy, this has never happened before and look at me, I'm acting an ass.

So the scene was a party full of black women who were drinking heavily and feeding off each other's ignorance. I'm not going to lie to you, our reaction, no matter how appropriate or inappropriate, was HILARIOUS.

It went a little something like this:

Me: Did Bubba just walk in?
Friends: Yeah, and he brought a date.
Me: A date? I thought he was still with ex #2?
Friends: I don't know girl, but he brought a date and she's white?
Me: He brought a white girl? WHERE?
Friends: right there
Me: *Falls out all over my seat like a baby having a temper tantrum* OH WOW
Friends and I: Laughing uncontrollably, dramatically cupping our mouths, eyes widened, taking shots and drinks to the head to keep from saying something ignorant, rude or heartlessly cruel.
*Bubba leaves his date seated at the head of the table and walks over greet the group*
Bubba: Hey T


Thursday, March 19, 2009

Quiet Time

I don't really have anything to say right now. (Shocking, I know). Work and this economy are stressing me out. Check out some old posts and check back on Monday, maybe something worth talking about will happen over the weekend.

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Religion: Let's Talk about It

Since I'm reading Escape, religion has been on my mind a lot lately.

I'm a Christian. I was brought up in the Baptist church, I currently worship at an Apostolic Church, but also worshipped with the Church of the Living God in college.

Some important things to note about the protestant Christian Faith:

1. We believe that religion is a choice. Even though most of us make the same religious choices of our parents, we don't believe that you're automatically Christian because your parents are Christian.

2. We believe that Jesus Christ is the son of God. He came down from Heaven, died for our sins, rose in three days and now sits and the right hand of God making intercession for (i.e. saving us from) our sins.

3. We believe that anyone can be saved, if you believe in your heart that Jesus rose from the dead and confess your sins and belief in Jesus with your mouth you are saved [from hell]...

That's about all we agree on. LOL! Some believe that once you're saved, you're always saved. Some believe that if you sin and don't repent for it, you could go to hell just like anyone who isn't saved. Some believe that ONLY Christians are going to heaven. Some believe that only their denomination of Christianity is going to heaven... and so on and so forth.

The reason I bring this up, is because in Escape, the things that they believed saved them were SUPER outlandish. They believe that plural marriage was how God separated his chosen from his unchosen. They believe that everyone from the outside world (i.e. not wearing those ugly clothes and participating in plural marriage) is evil. They believe that the more wives a man has, the more closer he is to God. Now I'm reading this and it just sounds like a crock of shit that allows men to degrade women. BUT if you've never heard anything differently, how would you know differently?

I'm sure believing that someone rose from the dead sounds outlandish to people who aren't Christians. I'm sure believing that you can become a child of God, just by professing your faith in him, sounds nuts to non-believers. But this is what I believe, what I've been taught, what I've placed my faith in and what I base the majority of life's decisions upon.

And this is what compelled me to write about religion today. Most churches I frequent preach that the only way to heaven is through Jesus. But if someone lives in a country where Jesus has never been uttered and subscribes to another religion and follows that religion's tenets is that person doomed to hell? What if Christianity is the wrong religion? What if Islam is God's true religion? As a Christian, who's been doing [or trying really hard to do] what Christians are supposed to do, am I now doomed to hell because I picked the wrong religion? And who's fault is it that I picked the wrong one? Who's fault is it that others live in places where you can't even say Jesus? Or that I live in a country where I can freely pick a religion?

My BFF mentioned that the bible speaks of different faiths coming together in heaven. (I haven't read it myself, so this is just hearsay right now, but I do trust that she's a better bible student than I am). She thinks if you follow the guidelines of your religion, then you'll be straight. I personally believe you need to be on A team. I don't know if you need to play for Christianity or Islam or Buddha, but you need to have some connection to God and heaven other than yourself. I personally feel like, pick a team, and play for it.

So I guess the question of the day is, If I follow A heavenly book of guidelines, no matter what the religion, is my seat in heaven sealed? Or is it about choosing THE RIGHT heavenly book of guidelines?

I probably should have consulted the [Christian] scriptures to get the definitive answer on this, but my bible studying skills haven't been on point since high school... Sad.

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

Book of the Week: Escape

I'm currently reading Escape by Carolyn Jessop. I'm not done with it, but I wanted to share with you guys. This book is excellent. You hear about religious cults and polygamist sects of different religions, but hearing someone's first hand account of the straight NONSENSE that goes on is both enlightening and heart-breaking.

Beware, this book is long as HELL! It's a page-turner though. I borrowed it from a co-worker and hope to be done with it this week. If you get a chance to read it, let me know what you think. Have you read any similar books with first-hand accounts of odd lifestyles?

Monday, March 16, 2009

Is it Just Me?

My boy Joe Castro just wrote nine hood indicators of the recession. and they're quite hilarious (and true), which reminded me of the topic at hand. Is it just me or has anyone else noticed a mass of brothers on scooters and skateboards in the hood? Every time I go to my parents house (which is a predominantly black neighborhood in the 'burbs), instead of seeing big trucks and chevys sittin' on them boys, I see blinged up MEN in white tees on skateboards. And in my parent's neighborhood, the dudes on SKATEBOARDS are the drug dealers. (I know 'cause they were on the block when I lived there).

My brain can't deal with these possibilities. We've got a black president and drug dealers are on skateboards, what's next? LOL!

Friday, March 13, 2009

Event Alert: Shecky's Girl's Night Out

Side note: Walgreens is having a SUPER sale on Garnier products... $.99, no limit and they're issuing rain checks. YAY!!!

On to the topic at hand...

In true Tea fashion, I won a ticket to this event on a blog. (Gotta love it! and thanks kb). It's for a great cause and has some fabulous benefits. If you're in the Chi, I hope to see you there! If you're out of the Chi, please forward to your girlfriends and sisters.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Book of the Week

Hey folks,

I'm going to start a new segment: Book of the Week. There won't be a book of the week every week, but if I come across some hotness, I'll share it with you all.

The first book is Steve Harvey's Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.

This book is a practical guide to helping women understand what men are thinking about love, relationships and intimacy. We all like to act like we have a handle on what's going on with the opposite sex, but this book definitely has some aha moments. Steve Harvey is clearly twice my age and has found love in his life, so I respect his wisdom and, of course his wit.

Don't get it twisted, this is not a how to get a guy in 10 days type guide. It's just information to help keep you from playing Boo-Boo the Fool or Connie Confused when navigating relationships. I love his straight, no chaser method of delivering information. The book is logical, practical an easy read and, if nothing else, entertaining.

My favorite chapters are sports fish vs. keeper and the five questions every woman should ask before getting in too deep.

Thanks to thummyb for letting me borrow it. Also, if you want to read a book a week, but haven't fit that into your budget, you can request any book you want at your local library and they'll buy it. I know a bunch of folks haven't been to the library since they were shorties doing research projects (I feel old since we had card catalogs and not computers), but libraries are still open and working and we should definitely use them, lest they become obsolete.
A book swap with homies is another great way to read for the free. And, last but not least, I'm also a fan of going to Borders for an hour or so every day to read a chapter of a book until I'm finished with it.

Don't judge me, I'm on a tight budget out here folks. Trips must be taken and credit card debt must be obliterated. Gotta get as much as I can for the free or cheap.

And now some "reading hilarity" for your morning. (Please turn your speakers down at work, lest you get fired).

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Tea's Tangents

1. Really Chicago? On top of having the HIGHEST sales tax (10.25%) of any city in the entire country, we are starting to pass a liquor tax to consumers on top of our high ass regular tax? Imagine my disgust [and perplexed face] when I picked up a bottle of goodness for $22.99 and the bill was $27.51. I know y'all aren't mathematicians, but that's 19.65% tax on my drank. Really?

Yeah, I can't wait for an election year (2010). Todd Stroger's ass has GOT to go. This man would tax air if he could. He's not his daddy AT ALL.

2. Lucy Pearl is the most underrated CD ever. Anyone who ever road-tripped with me in college knows that CD well, but it still warms my heart when it comes on my iPod shuffle. Don't sleep on it.

3. I have two boas hanging off the hinge of my front door from various bachelorette parties I've been to. About once a week I find a pink or white feather stuck to a piece of clothing or darkening my doorstep. I wonder what people who see me disposing of hot pink feathers think is really going on.

4. Why are major life accomplishments always followed by mini-fuck-ups? It's like God's trying to help you remember who's in charge out here. Like don't get too happy about that great thing I just helped you do... you're still imperfect. Duly noted God, duly noted.

5. Verizon Wireless came with that GOOD customer service last week. Issued two credits to my phone bill without even arguing with me. Saving me time, saving me money... keeping my business... I can dig it.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

The Red Pump Project

In honor of this day KB and Luvvie got together to encourage a fab group of women bloggers to participate in The Red Pump Project, which is dedicated to educating people about how the HIV/AIDS epidemic affects women.

Please use this day to share this important information with the women in your life.

Most importantly make sure your little sisters and cousins know the importance of using condoms. That's right, I said tell KIDS to use condoms. Don't sugar coat it. Life's sad reality is that children are having sex and while trying to protect their innocence, we may be keeping vital life-saving information from them.

If you have time peep some heavy-hitting statistics about U.S. women and HIV/AIDS. Based on this statistics the story reads like this to me:

Women are affected more than ever before and black women are affected more than that.
*There are approximately 1.1 million people living with HIV/AIDS in the U.S. & almost 280,000 are women

*HIV/AIDS is the leading cause of death for black women (including African American women) aged 25–34 years. (Um, that's my demographic).

Women are more likely to find the disease late and receive more ineffective treatments
*Among those who are HIV positive, 35% of women were tested for HIV late in their illness (diagnosed with AIDS within one year of testing positive)

*According to a CDC study of more than 19,500 patients with HIV in 10 US cities, women were slightly less likely than men to receive prescriptions for the most effective treatments for HIV infection

Minority women and GIRLS are the most at-risk group.
*The rate of AIDS diagnosis for black women was approximately 23 times the rate for white women and 4 times the rate for Latina women

*In 2006, teen girls represented 39% of AIDS cases reported among 13–19 year-olds. Black teens represented 69% of cases reported among 13–19 year-olds; Latino teens represented 19%.

Monday, March 9, 2009

The McDonald's Effect

Have you ever been to McDonald's at about 3 p.m? You're literally the only one in the restaurant, but it takes about 30 minutes to get your food. But if you go at 12:05 p.m., they get you your artery clogging wonderful tasting fries in 90 seconds or less, guaranteed.

This twisted turn of events is called the McDonald's effect. When things are busy, workers are their most effecient. When things are slow, workers are their least productive. Oh boy, why can't I get over this phenomenon?

Now today and everyday of 2009, I've been SUPER busy at work. But the month I put this message in my drafts in 2008, I was-dare I say it-slow at work. (shhhh, don't tell anyone, I'll never admit which month it was anyway).

On those slow days I would be downright livid when someone gave me work to do. I'd be thinking don't you know I'm writing Tea & Such posts right now, catching up on YBF and Bossip, reading Suze Orman online, commenting on people's facebook photos, arguing with people on gchat, planning my next vacation and hollering at 4S via various methods of communication. Don't you know I didn't come here to work today? LOL!

Isn't it a hilarious phenomenon? You're sitting in McDonald's thinking there is NO ONE else here, where is my food? And THEN I'm sitting in my office like I don't have ANYTHING else to do, but... PLEASE don't give me any work.

If you know about a cure to this phenomenon, please let me know. I think it's called Just Do Your Damn Job. LOL! What about you, have you been a victim of the McDonald's effect?

Friday, March 6, 2009


Ok, I didn't comment about the little monkey cartoon in the New York Post because I don't read comics, nor do I read the New York Post, nor do I care how most people interpreted the racist cartoon that the NY Post cartoonist put out there. I pick my battles and if I'm sending a letter or e-mail it's going to be something I actually care about.


What I do, do... is read. I read often. Fiction, non-fiction, magazines, blogs... whatever I can get my hands on and find the time to devour. So imagine my sheer disgust at the photo below. Barnes and Noble, a national bookseller, has the nerve to have this heinous, blatantly racist display. I don't care if a teenager did it to be funny in one city at one store, you need to monitor your displays more closely and mark my words... I WILL NEVER BUY ANYTHING FROM BARNES AND NOBLE EVER AGAIN (and I won't let the interns from my company purchase anything company related from there either).

If I was an author, I'd pull my books out of Barnes and Noble stores. I work too hard for my money to buy so much as a peppermint candy from a blatantly racist organization.

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Craziness and Confusion

Is it just me or have your co-workers been talking crazy lately too?

I kid you not it's like my managers have got me confused with someone who gets paid MORE than I do and the people I manage have gotten me confused with someone who gets paid LESS than I do.

Ridiculous quotes:

"I can't get to that today." (to which I said in a very professional way... wanna bet?)
- Intern

"I just spent two days doing XYZ. Can you make a complement for XYZ in an hour and a half?" (Yes, of course, I'm superTEA)
- Manager

"I'm in a meeting right now and I don't know when I'll get a chance to review this, but don't leave until I've had a chance to review this." (SURE! There's nothing I want more on a cold Chicago evening than to stare out of the pitch black window in my office longing to go home... waiting on you to leave a meeting and review my work).
- Manager (at 4:47 p.m.)

I figure it must be because of the recession. They figure (rightly so) that I have less leverage because of the depressed job market. I used to be a bit of a rebel [in my head] and always say if I got fired, I'd just go back to grad school (like everyone else who doesn't know what they want to be when they grow up - no offense to anyone), but given the little loan freeze situation, that's not really my best option right now.

I guess I'm going to go do this intern's work... be SuperTEA... and stare out of my window waiting for my manager to review my work... Womp.

Drive Less, Live More

I was on the phone with D last week and she mentioned that if I'm interested, now would be a good time for me to get a car since carmakers are practically giving them away.

I reminded her that me not having a car is a lifestyle choice that I've made that's convenient for me and it has very little to do with car affordability. (Cars are cheap... parking, gas and everything else related to driving in Chicago are what's expensive).

Side note: Old people NEVER understand why I don't have a car. They think I've fallen on "rough times" or that when I find a "nice man" I'll get that car "I always wanted."

Anyway, I came across this Web site that encourages people to Drive Less and Live More. It encourages you to have more cost-efficient, environmentally-friendly travel options by thinking, moving and playing more. If we're being honest, this Web site is just a pretty marketing tool for the CTA, but who has time for honesty out here.

Anyway, what would it take for you to drive less?

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Old People are GREAT!

Side note: I've been in OKC all weekend. I'll be home tonight. D&J say hi. :)

On to the topic at hand

A couple of funny tidbits from older folks...

- I was sitting waiting for a to-go order in Corner Bakery and this 70+ woman was looking at another 70+ woman and mentioned to me that she had great posture. When I stare at another 20-something woman, I'm sure I look at her purse, her shoes and maybe even her hair and make-up. I love how our priorites change as we age.

- My dad's dad died and my mom's mom came to the funeral. I was like grandma, I didn't know you were coming. She was like well yeah, I don't work anymore, so I thought I should come out and support the family. I was like grandma, you just hit up the funeral circuit now, don't you? She started rollin'..., but she didn't deny it. I hit clubs, grandma hits funerals. If that's not funny to you, you have NO sense of humor.

Funny conversation on the same day:

Grandma to my mom: Can I ride with you all to the burial?
Mom: Sure.
Grandma: (When we get to the graveyard) I'm not getting out of the car. I don't want to get mud on my boots.
Mom: Then why did you come to the burial, Ma?
Grandma: I just needed a ride home.


Monday, March 2, 2009

It's my blog-iversary!!!

I can't believe this, but it's been a whole year since I started blogging! It seems like just a few posts ago. Blogging can be kinda sad to me because unlike a novel that readers can read from start to finish, every reader of my blog doesn't have the same background information. (Seriously, who has the time or attention span to go back and read 365 days worth of posts.)

Only some of you know the anxiety I have when I don't pack my party shoes... A lot of you know what a shoe party is and most of you have read about my feelings on marriage, infidelity, hoes and the like, but everyone hasn't read everything, so blogging leaves some things to be desired.

I guess it's much like real life. New friends can be closer to you than older friends, but the older friends, hold the history. Deep inpenetrable connections can be made with both groups, but in different ways.

Well, whether you commented on my very first post (miss you Reese) or are reading for the first time, I love you all for reading my random thoughts on life, love and the pursuit of pretty shoes, er um... I'm mean happiness.

So in honor of my blogiversary listen to this Tone Toni Tone and check out Tea's top 10 (i.e. most popular) blog posts... in order of comments made:

1. Unanswered questions [to myself]

2. Chilvalry... What's That

3. Male First Date Mistakes

4. I slept with a big girl

5. All My Frito Lays

6. DC/Chicago Gun Ban

7. She Get it From Her Mama!

8. Misuse and Abuse of Leggings

9. Bad Parenting

10. Feet