Thursday, August 28, 2008

This is...

This is...

Joy. History. Memories.

This was hard work.

This took Dedication. Passion. Education. A sound plan. Inspiration.

***45 years ago this was a dream.***

This took Hope.

He is mixed-race. Bi-racial. African-American.

In these great states, he's a black man.

She came from his side, south side, God's side, their side: full of pride.

She held him down.

I watched. I donated. I dreamed. I donated. I believed. I donated. I called. I was told THAT WORD would never become the president.

***88 years ago my gender got the right***

I voted.

I hung up. I tried again. Without me it would've been different and because of me it'll never be the same.

I did it. They did it. He did it. WE did it. We'll win it.

I. Taste. Change.

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

The DNC is on and POPPIN'

That's right folks, it's hyped in Denver right now. Here's a recap (with Tea's commentary, of course) and be sure to watch live as our future President, Barack Obama, gives the speech of a lifetime Thursday around 8 p.m. MT.

South Side Stand Up!

Favorite Line: "My girls will tell their children... In this great country where a girl from the south side of Chicago can go to college and law school and a son of a single mother from Hawaii can go all the way to the White House that we committed ourselves to building the world as it should be"

Yeah, we went to the same high school!!!

*singing like Queen Latifah* U-N-I-T-Y

Favorite line: "No McCain, No Way, No How."

Way to get to the point, Madam Senator!!!

*like Smokey on Friday* That's my dawg!!! That's my dawg!!!

Favorite line: "People have been impressed by the power of our example, rather than the example of our power."

He redeemed himself from all the hate he was underhandedly throwing at Obama during the campaign. Way to stick together!

*Biden's mom is an OG, believe that.*

Favorite Line: "Barack Obama, the next President of the United States"

Seems no one's uploaded the whole speech yet, but please watch it if you didn't. His mom is no joke. She could go up against Barbara Bush anyday. Let the games begin!!!

Also great speeches by the Montana governor, Jesse Jackson, Jr., John Kerry and Bill Richardson. (I'm not youtubing all that for y'all. Get back to work!!!)

Tea's Top 10: At Home Sick

I'm going to break up the top 10 today. As many of you know I was at home sick yesterday. First the top 5 reasons it sucks being at home sick and second the Top 5 reasons it's no so bad.

5. The bodyaches are debilitating. And the meds I took hit my brain before they hit my body, so I'm delusional sitting in the bed thinking I'm going to be that one person with the string of the cold virus that no medication can cure.

4. I'm single with no kids, so my kitchen is not stocked like a married and/or person with kids' kitchen would be (and neither is my medicine cabinet for that matter). No chicken noodle soup, no honey for my tea. No lemon tea, just green tea and peach tea. No Nyquil, no bedtime Tylenol. I had orange juice, apples, Ibuprofen and that's about it.

3. I don't own a thermometer, so I couldn't tell if I had a fever or if it was just hot in my apartment. I was scared to turn the fan or the air on because I assumed that sleeping under them is what got me in this mess in the first place. I was going back and forth from hot to cold. Under all the covers, under none of the covers. Aw man, it sucked.

2. It's hard to tell if I'm getting better or not. I feel better at first, then I open my mouth to talk and it's like Darth Vader has taken over my body. Or I'm in the bed watching the Wire (uninterrupted in the daylight, thank God) and I get up and a headache hits me like a ton of bricks. Am I better? Am I worse... I dunno.

1. I'm going to have hundreds of emails when I get back to work tomorrow and I'm going to be there ALL night catching up on work. SUCKS!!!


5. I was here when the plumber came.

4. I shredded two blue bags worth of unnecessary mail. Yes, I use blue bags. No, I don't actually think the city of Chicago recycles what I put in those blue bags, but hey, I'm doing MY part.

3. I took the time to make a good breakfast today. Nothing like French Toast on a Tuesday!!!

2. I didn't have to go to work, which means I can sit at my computer catching up on the DNC without email and phone call interruptions (and, of course I'm blogging and facebook stalking like Reese suggested).


1. A sad face on a text message resulted in a lovely visit from my mom and sis with all the necessities I lacked: family time, fresh fruits and veggies, homemade enchiladas, chicken noodle soup, tea, Nyquil, a thermometer AND RIII-CO-LAAAAA cough drops.

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Do You See What I See?

Oh my goodness. I was walking down the street early one Saturday morning in Lakeview and what do I see sitting by its lonesome, but the prettiest thing I've ever seen on two wheels. In case you hadn't noticed by now I'm in love with all things pretty. It's a Taurus thing (you may or may not understand)...

Anyway, I was on the phone and stopped to take this picture. Isn't it gorgeous? I don't even get into bikes like that. Matter of fact, I refuse to ride them, but had the owner been close and wanted to go for a ride, I would have went (with a helmet of course). I know, crazy, but the "pretty" is so enticing!!!

Monday, August 25, 2008

Tea's Top 10: Annoying Business Jargon

Happy Monday folks. Now that you're back at work and procrastinating already let's talk about the office. Every office is different, but we all use business jargon. Though I use these little sayings, and they prove purposeful and useful, generally speaking, they tend to annoy the hell out of me.

Here are my top 10. Feel free to add the ones from your place of business.

10. Moving Forward/Going Forward
Tea's translation: You've effed up, next time get it right

9. Areas for growth/development
Tea's translation: Places where you should generally just stop effing up

8. Key Learnings
Tea's translation: A 'key learning' is a place where 1) we should stop effing up as a team or 2) we told someone it wasn't going to work in the first place, but they didn't believe us and made us do it anyway and now we have to explain for the second time why it didn't work and why it won't work in the future

7. Realized favorability in the budget
Tea's translation: We have a lot of money left over

6. Cost-prohibitive
Tea's translation: Too expensive

5. Sounds good
Tea's translation: Ok

Side note: Where I'm from, the phrase 'sounds good,' is not a positive phrase. For example in a sentence: "He's talking a good game and it 'sounds good,' but he's not backing it up with anything." So imagine my disgust when I'm at work and about 2 years ago this little phrase catches on to mean, ok, got it, I understand, I'll handle, I'll do, etc. IR-RI-TA-TING!

4. Double entendre
Tea's [ENGLISH] translation - Pun OR Play on words

3. Take the charge as in "Tea, can you take the charge on this project?"
Tea's translation: Do it.

2. Best,
Tea's translation: I don't know how the hell else to end this note and "Sincerely" is way to stuffy so I'll just put one annoying word here that really doesn't mean anything, followed by a comma before signing my name.

1. Please
Tea's translation: Now

Jargon Example: We've realized favorability in the 2008 budget. A key learning we can take from this is that we'll have more space for other projects in the future. Tea, can you please take the charge on revising next year's budget?


Tea's translation: We effed up this year, stop effing up immediately, Tea, start fixing the ish for next year now. That's all I have to say.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

Real Quick


My. Credit. Score. Went. UP. SEVENTY. POINTS.

70 POINTS, since I last checked it, less than a year ago.

Do you know how happy this makes me? I can't really describe it, but clearly I'm going to try: If I was getting a hot stone massage in Bali while eating homemade chocolate cake AND watching my favorite bride walk down the aisle to a live John Legend and Brian McKnight duet, I still don't know if I would be as happy as I am right now.

Yeah... it feels that good.

Big ups to American Express for that free look at my credit score.

Big ups to Suze Orman at Young, Fabulous and Broke for laying out the broad steps and R, my big brother and financial planner for laying out the detailed steps.

And thank God for the energy to work a job and a career and the wisdom to do the right things with the loot.


Friday, August 22, 2008

Believers for Barack

Check out this new site. If you love Jesus AND you love Barack Obama, this may be the place for you. Someone sent it via a facebook group and I thought I'd share. If you get a chance to check it out, please do let me know how it is.

P.S. I hope you got Obama mobile for that VEEP annoucement today. I'm TOO EXCITED!!!


According to the AP "Late Friday, several officials said the text message announcement would be distributed Saturday morning, a few hours before a scheduled rally at the Old State Capitol in Springfield, Ill., where the Democratic ticket would appear for the first time."

Darnit! I'm going to be darn near underground with no service at work when this comes through tomorrow. I see I might have to take several bathroom breaks...

Thursday, August 21, 2008

East Lakeview Campaign #6

Hey folks,

The campaign is in full effect. At least until these fall leases get signed.

One of the hottest corners in Lakeview is Broadway and Briar. While sitting outside at the Argo Tea Cafe (you know how much I love Tea) you can see the following:

Reckless Records - For the musically inclined

Intelligentsia - In case you prefer coffee

A liquor store - Because you're not going to drink coffee and tea all night

American Apparel - Because even if I hate leggings, someone has to wear them

The Apartment People - In case you want to upgrade or relocate (they show all over the north side and south loop)

New Toyko - Lakeview's best sushi restaurant (or so I've heard, let me know if you want to try it).

Mexican Restaurant - I don't know the name of it, but you can sit outside and it smells heavenly walking by. Yes, there is Mexican and Sushi on the same corner. It's a heavenly place, I'm trying to tell you!

Ice Cream Shop - Again, I don't know the name of it, but I can see it from Argo Tea Cafe. Lakeview is overflowing with ice cream shops. They also have a place near this corner called "Cupcakes," which makes me very happy.

Wilde - A overly-masculine decorated restuarant smack dab in the middle of boystown. Not only do you feel like you're in Sherlock Holmes' study with the real bookshelves and burning fireplaces, but they also make a FIYAH chocolate martini if I do say so myself. The prices are reasonable and the people are nice. A perfect winter getaway ('cause be for real, you can only sit outside in the Chi for another couple of weeks).

And most importantly sitting at the Argo Tea Cafe on the corner of Briar and Belmont, you can see all the H.A.M.s walking through my neighborhood. Oh, it's just splendid. The boys that like boys and the girls that like girls. The goth folks, the sistas - like myself - who have fallen off completely because it doesn't really matter. The small dog walkers, the big dog walkers, the MAC users, the PC users. The parents that were brave enough to bring their kids out of the house in strollers in this confusing environment, the punk rockers, the smokers, the dopers, the actors, the drag queens. I mean for a $3.50 Chai Latte, you can sit outside and entertain yourself for hours on end, just watching people. And honestly, no one's policing the tables outside, so if you want to just sit down tea-free, you can.

I want you to move to East Lakeview, but even if you don't/can't/won't you still need to make a trip up here to get a coffee or tea with me. It's BIG FUN!

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Orange Savings Account

I did it folks. Yesterday I opened up an Orange Savings Account with ING Direct. Kim let me know in April on our grown folks trip that the OSA really is that deal. I was dragging my feet when I first heard about it more than four years ago. I'm not a trailblazer or anything like that, so I want to make sure the bank's not going to fail and that my money is FDIC insured before I electronically send it anywhere.

BUT I always knew I wouldn't be getting my grown woman on until I opened one. Well, it's official: I'm an adult. LOL!

Now here are the Tea's Top 10 reasons you TOO should open an Orange Savings Account, if you haven't already.

10. All the grown folks are doing it.

9. They have a delightful little cafe on Chestnut between State and Wabash. Not only can you go in and chill, watch the news, check your email and/or read the paper, you can open an account AND you get a free coffee for opening it (Do you know how much a grande latte or Chai Tea will set you back these days?) To add to the ambiance the people who work there are uber-nice AND they donate all of their pastries to charity at the end of the evening. If you go there close to 7 p.m., they will consider you charity and give you all the pastries you can take. I definitely came up in more ways than one today.

8. If you open an account and give them my name, I can get some dough. (FREE MONEY)

7. If you open an account, then one of your friends opens an account you can get some dough (FREE MONEY)

6. If you open it with $250 they give you a bonus $25. You KNOW how I feel about free money!

5. There's no minimum balance to open an account. That's right one penny can get you started.

4. You can set up automatic withdrawals from your checking account from another bank, so the loot is out of sight, out of mind.

3. The APY is 3.0 (This really should be the ONLY reason you need, but... you know, I have a blog to maintain here)

2. Because wealth building is important to foster and maintain the strongest communities and when my paper gets long[er] you cannot borrow any money.

1. Because in the time it took you to read this post you could have already opened an account.

Do you have an Orange Savings Account?

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Real Quick

I'm having a fat girl moment right now.

I want a McRib sandwich, two egg rolls and a large custard (From that place in Champaign everyone used to go to in college).

With a strawberry shake from Pete's in Maywood.

Yes, I want custard AND a shake.

Really Lovie

The Bears never cease to amaze me. Whether it's making it to the superbowl without a good quarterback or continually playing this loser quarterback as the starter. It's like it doesn't even take a smart person to watch a couple of games and figure out that Rex Grossman can't throw a ball.

Can he throw better that me, sure.

Can he throw better than high school players, maybe.

Can he throw better than most college quarterbacks, probably not.

Can he throw well enough to keep getting his NFL contract renewed AND be the starting quarterback HELL NAW!!!

I wish an Avon Barksdale-like character would've planted something on him last year, so he could have been indicted and kicked to the curb like Cedric Benson.

So, the news breaks - days ago - that Kyle Orton is going to be the starting quarterback for the Bears. I should be happy right? Thrilled, Elated, Delighted?

I'm content.

But the trifling, baffling, sick, twisted, ridiculousness about the whole thing is that Orton's being promoted because "Lovie Smith" has a gut feeling about him. The same gut feeling he had about Rex, who was mediocre and depended on the defense to win games the year we went to the superbowl and who was WEAK AND DESPICABLE last year.

Why not stats? Why not games? Game outcomes? Game breaks? Why not ask my grandma who doesn't even like sports, but could tell you if you aren't winning you need to try something else? why WHy WHY WHY????????? WHY go with a "feeling."

That could be indigestion fool. UGH!

Monday, August 18, 2008

Bernie Mac on Def Jam

Happy Monday Folks!

I don't usually get this vulgar on Tea & Such, but uh... in honor of a Legend... gone 'head keep the party going.

(Don't watch this at work unless you have some headphones.)

Big ups to Paris for reminding me about this.

Friday, August 15, 2008

Tea's Top 10: Apparel Problems at the Club

Below find the top 10 problems I had with people's attire at the club last night. Yes, I was bored enough to spot all of these problems and remember them. And peep the post time, Yes, in lieu of going to bed, I decided to write this immediately. Don't hate.

10. Wearing rhinestone shoes with a cotton dress... WHY!?!?!

9. Wearing sunglasses in the club (it bears repeating)

8. Wearing a motorcycle jacket when you don't have a motorcycle

7. Wearing Bill Cosby sweaters, even if they are a name brand

6. Dudes wearing smedium shirts, but not even on purpose. Like they put their shirt in the dryer by mistake and put the shirt on, then left the house, like oops, I guess I should have worn a longer shirt.

5. A cotton rock-a-wear tube top one-piece short set (actually it was some fake brand, but it could have and should have been rock-a-wear) with leopard sandals (the shoes were actually cute though, just not with that makeshift jogging suit).

4. Putting your intimate fat on public display. What's intimate fat, you ask. Well people can look at someone and see she's big, but half the chicks tonight decided we should all play a game called how many yards of fabric do you think she has between those rolls? That, my friends, is intimate fat. That SHOULD be between them, God and their bed sheets. The rest of us didn't deserve that. WEAR LOOSER CLOTHES!!!

3. Super short, flimsy fabric, skin tight dresses. They're not cute on ANYONE. Tell a friend.

2. Furthermore, wearing a skin tight dress when your skin is NOT tight. I saw two H.A.M.S walk past the club and I was so happy that they were going to another party. [I don't like wack looking people to be in the same place I'm partying. It sends the wrong message to onlookers.] They both had on itty bitty dresses, but they were overweight and spiling out of them. Complete with panty lines showing (cause I guess they thought it best not to wear a thong) and then the fat spilling over the tops of their panties (cause frankly it had no where else to go) and their feet packed up into some stillettos like people pack onto a 146 CTA bus during the morning rush hour. Then, much to my dismay, they turned around and came to go where I was going. ICK! The moral of this story is, if you MUST wear a skin tight super short dress... how about you spend six serious months at the gym first. How 'bout that?

And the number 1 problem I had with people's attire last night is:

1. A white blazer with Jeans and a button down shirt... Usher called, he'd like 2003 back.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

East Lakeview Campaign: Tonic Room

I happen to know a couple of folks' leases are ending soon, so I'm going hard on the East Lakeview Campaign.

The # 5 reason you should move to Lakeview is Tonic Room.

Now, I've only been living in this neighborhood for about a year. Even if I didn't have a job and went to a different place in Lakeview (and the immediately surrounding neighborhoods) every day for breakfast, lunch dinner and to party, I still think I would miss a few things. So it's not surprising to me that I've never heard of, or been to Tonic Room.

Now, technically, this place in in Lincoln Park, but when searching for your apartment or condo you'll only want to live on the Northernmost edges of Lincoln Park (i.e. East Lakeview) so you'll be walking distance from me. :)

Tonic Room was like a breath of fresh air. It's a bar that has a DJ like you're at a club. Hip-Hop-non-stop. It was amazing. The DJ was also clearly a Chicago fan because Kanye and Lupe were in HEAVY rotation, mixed in with a lotta Biggie and lil' Wayne and a couple of feel-good songs every now and again (think Motown with beats in the back).

Other hot things about this place:
- You don't have to buy a bottle to sit down (I doubt this place even has bottle service.)
- There's no dress code, so you can do a mini skirt, tee and flip flops and be perfectly comfortable.
- It's not in a location that attracts people who thinks it's ok to bring weapons to clubs, so despite the lack of a dress code it was a very peaceful time.
- There are tons of people with no rhythm there who are BIG FUN to watch, and at times, laugh at

And the absolute best part about Tonic room is the price of the drinks. I bought two beers and a healthy vodka drink for $11. Total. IN CHICAGO. ON A FRIDAY NIGHT. At most places I go to $11 will get you martini "on special" or some small drink that you thought was a rum and coke, but is clearly just mouthwash given the size of the dixie cup they brought it to you in.

Even if you don't move here, we'll have to take a chill night and check out Tonic Room together.

BUT... To recap... East Lakeview's friggin awesome because of...

2. North Avenue Beach
3. Fall-offability
4. Pink Polish AND
5. Tonic Room: a non-pretentious bar with drinks for the low and an off the chain club-like DJ (which is actually located in Lincoln Park, but just a quick walk or $3 cab ride away from East Lakeview)

I'm practically begging people. Join me up here! You'll have the time of your life.

P.S. Make an appointment with The Apartment People. They have all the Lakeview hook-ups.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Question of the Day: Cutting Costs

My blogger buddy Nerd Girl put up a post a little while ago and today I'm totally stealing her questions.

1. What are you doing to cut costs now that prices for everything are so high?
2. What are cheap recipes to make during these rough times?

I'll kick it off by answering questions too:

To cut costs/save money I'm

- Getting rid of my home phone
- Living below my means in a studio (in Lakeview, join me!)
- Working two jobs (which obviously makes money, but also saves money because I have ZERO free time to spend money)

As far as recipes go, just cooking in general saves money. Since I live by myself the desire to eat out is strong and laziness/fatigue also plays a factor. The cheapest thing I cook is spaghetti. A couple of ingredients and I'll have lunch and dinner for a week.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Maywood Shootings

Hey folks,

Three teens were killed in Maywood Sunday.

I'm going to bring the Tea & Such tempo back up tomorrow, but this was too close to home to not comment. My grandma lives in Maywood, in the same house my mom grew up in. The young boy that's highlighted first in the article lives about 6 blocks from where I grew up, where my mom and stepfather still live, where my 19 year old brother is undoubtedly running the streets until he goes back to college. Where my 20 year old brother, if he were home, would be roaming as well.

This ish is out of control. My mom didn't let me go to the local high school because she worked there and her students, in addition to being underserved academically, were always in fear of being shot. More than once she called me with a heavy heart because a student was shot or dead. That was about 10 years ago and it's still heartbreaking and it doesn't look like there's an end in sight. This is only the suburbs people (a hood suburb, but a suburb nonetheless).

So yes, in addition to Bernie's family and Issac Hayes' family (who I didn't even touch on) add the families of these three positive young men to your prayer list and check on your little brothers and cousins.

Monday, August 11, 2008

Question of the Day: Home Phones

Happy Monday folks and Happy Birthday SNN!

I'm getting ready to get rid of my home phone. It's always freaked me out though because I live by myself and I'm thinking what if there's an emergency and my cell isn't charged. However paying any amount of money for something I never use is starting to get on my nerves.

For Bears season, the AT&T phone and DSL I have, have to be replaced with Comcast cable and high speed internet. No need for a phone. (I'm SO happy it's football season, I can't even describe it to you).

So today's question is: Do you have a home phone? Why or Why not?

P.S. Scroll down to see the weekend tribute.

Saturday, August 9, 2008

Saying Goodbye to the Mac Man

My family loves comedy and movies. I mean, I think I was 10 or 11 when the original Def Jam used to come on and I used to watch it with my mom and stepdad. We're a bunch of movie buffs too. At any given point you can hear one of us quoting a funny line from a classic black movie. (If you're not in my family, I usually have to explain what the line is from, totally destroying the joke, etc, etc).

So imagine our delight, as a family, when the Kings of Comedy came out. It's comedy AND it's a movie. My nieces could probably quote the whole DVD word for word (we're not going to discuss how wrong that is right now, I'm trying to make a tribute here).

We LOVE Bernie Mac! Like if you catch us in the right lie, we'll tell you he's somehow related to us. Doesn't it feel like that? Doesn't he feel like a funny uncle you have? He reminds me of my crazy granddad. Just said whatever the hell he wanted to say. Well, due to an unfortunate case of pneumonia, now granddad and Bernie Mac can tell jokes in heaven together.

Everyone please keep his wife and daughter in your prayers. This is a devastating loss.

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't sad. Some people just get better with age and you look forward to what they're going to do or say next. I'm so sad I'll never hear him tell another joke, never see him live, never see unseen versions of his show ("America? America? This little girl thinks I'm playin with her... Nessa Don't. Know. Who. She. Messin'. With.")

So here's to you Mac Man. We'll forever keep you in our hearts, on our minds and in our DVD players.

Friday, August 8, 2008

Question of the Day: Worst Pick-Up Lines

Today's question is: What's the Worst Pick-Up line you've ever heard?

I have a couple of pick-up lines that were the absolute WORST, but I don't have 10 good ones. With all the beautiful people who read my blog, I KNOW we've got 10 hot ones between us.

Please email me at and let me know what your worst pick-up lines have been. This is for men and women or even if you've used some bad ones, let me know. I'll compile and post it up for Tea's Top 10.

Thanks in advance for the responses.

P.S. I'm disabling comments, 'cause I know some folks don't like to follow directions. Email me. :)

Thursday, August 7, 2008


So, you know how when you're dating an average looking or ugly person (c'mon, don't front like you've never dated an ugly person). Anyway, when you're dating them, they pretty much get one, maybe one and half mistakes before you dismiss them. But when you're dating a wonderful-looking person you throw him or her several passes before you finally call it quits, 'cause let's face it, you enjoy looking at them.

So, latley I've been told by more than one person in more than one setting that I'm "difficult" in more than one way. Clearly, a difficult person, would argue that he or she is not difficult with the person or persons that made the accusation(s), which is exactly what I started to do, which, then proved to me, that I am, indeed, difficult.

So THEN it hit me like a ton of bricks. The same pretty boy pass I've been giving out without abandon, has bomeranged right back to me. Men have been willing to let me be difficult for the same reasons I let wonderful-looking men get away with little annoying BS. Hilarity.

And, in honor of my small epiphany... Here's something a wise older black woman told me to read. I am not going to make any commentary on it (or at least, I'm going to try very hard not to). I'm just sharing, because if I'M difficult, then any and all of these things could be true. LOL!

Top Ten Reasons Why it's Hard to Date a Black Woman
To read full article: Matthew Lynch

1. Black women make black men feel under appreciated, unwarranted and irresponsible and regressive.
2. Black women are too aggressive and no longer patient in waiting on the pursuit of a man.
3. Black women are strong headed, too independent which presents great challenges in relationships.
4. Black women are masculine in that they are controlling and like to run the relationship.
5. Black women expect too much. They are gold diggers who will not look twice at a blue collar black man.
6. Black women are hot headed and have bad attitudes.
7. Black women stop caring about their appearance after a certain age.
8. Black women are not as sexually open as other races, especially in regards to oral sex.
9. Black women’s tolerance is far too low; they are no longer empathetic to the black man’s struggle in white America.
10. Black women do not cater to their men.

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

An Observation: Why Tea's Single

Hey Folks,

I'm pretty good at making folks feel guilty 'cause Reese FINALLY wrote his piece on "Why Tea's Single." Of course, you can see what I have to say about "taken men" over at his spot. And my bad for the lack of set up earlier.


Single life must be interesting, I'm not wondering about it just making an observation. Why I am making it is because I get a lot (not being cocky here) of advances from single women, taken women, and women that are somewhere in between. You can que ben 1 now because I'm never leaving my girl for you.

What is going on out there? I realize that a lot of men fall into one of these classifications; married, taken (me), gay, under-educated i.e. hood figure, under employed, thinks they’re too good for black women (another blog on that soon :)), has 4 kids by 3 different baby mamas, in jail, or dead. So that leaves slim pickings for the educated, single, and fly black woman. I'm in no way writing this to talk trash about anyone just what I see.

Chicks are settling out here, they letting cats have the goodies with the promise of something that isn't going to happen. We have to do better. And I'm not just talking about the ladies. I mean the fellahs are slipping as well. I know dudes who are willing to be seriously dating 2 or 3 chicks and then when the ultimatum (spelling?) hits they drop em all and pick up new ones. For the ladies and fellahs, being single and in the field is cool if that’s what you want but choose! Don’t make it seem like you want a monogamous relationship and still trick off on the regular. Or don’t do the single thing and string people along like you want to be committed.

What I am saying in a nutshell is that it’s rough out here if you are single or taken; my perspective is that of a taken man.

Why i ask the question as to what is going on out there is based in the fact that there seems to be a lack of qualms (spelling?) in a lot of men and women out here. My clubbing and social experiences are most times interesting because i try to observe how people act and react to someone saying that they have a girlfriend (or boyfriend) when i speak of classifications of certain men i mean to use that as a basis for a lot of the undesirable archtypes that exsist thus making some brothers who have their stuff together more appealing.

The flip side of that is those that are taken still get advances from women (this is from my perspective but can apply to women as well) who feel that they want some of this positive person if only for one night. Like T said (paraphrasing here), any woman who actually played on her heightened emotions by putting her bid in when she knows that he has a girl, no matter what the circumstances, then YES, she is, INDEED, trifling.

And this isnt to say that any person isnt capable of being trifling (esp us cause i KNOW in my most trifling days i didnt give not a care if a chick had a man) just human and wanting to feel special.

I am in no way being arrogant or saying that “I’m the sh*t” or anything like that but there are too many women out there willing to compromise themselves to feel special to someone who already has someone. That in no way makes any one person at fault, I think it is the climate of our existence at this juncture that makes us this way. We live in an era of instant gratification, if you see something you want it…now, regardless of the consequence and I think that feeling is wrongly applied to our dating habits which leaves a lot of people in the late 20s and early 30s feeling, well, lonely and unfulfilled.

-- Reese

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Do You See What I See/Question of the Day

Now folks, let's use context clues, shall we. There's a glimpse of a white cake on a table to the left, round tables with centerpieces and fully clothed adults in the background, someone's family member looking nice in gold right with an evening bag up front. Where might I have been when I took this picture... a wedding reception, yes, it was a wedding reception indeed.

And what do we have here? A ho. Yes, a ho. A ho in black actually with silver spiked stilletos and a full weave. Smack dab in between R&P's Chicago wedding reception. Not only would she have looked a mess at a wedding reception, but she also would have looked a mess at a club, on a date, pretty much anywhere that wasn't the ho stroll. And according to my big brother she has a man. BUT I thought it through for the purposes of this post and decided that having a man doesn't mean you're not a ho. Reformed ho... maybe. Married ho... perhaps, but ho indeed.

So now for the question of the day. Do you think this dress is wedding appropriate? If you think it's wedding appropriate, nevermind my commentary to the contrary, please share your thoughts.

Monday, August 4, 2008

Tea's Tangents

1. As far as summer weekends in the Chi go, this past was the best one in '08 thusfar. I definitely think it's one for the books.

2. Pastor Jenkins at Fellowship said 8 is the number of new beginnings. I'm trying to figure out if that's scriptural, astrological or his vision for his church this year. I've never heard that before, so if you know something about it, please put me up on game.

3. DJ Jazzy Jeff spun at the Blackberry party on Thursday. 90s music mixed in with today's hot joints... Indescribable HOTNESS. I'm still singing la da di, la da da... la da di, la da da.

4. Reese is never going to finish his part of the tandem blog, so just stop looking forward to it. ***Insert sad face here*** Does anyone else want to do a tandem blog with me? Maybe he'll see how hot our tandem is, get mad because it was HIS idea, then have motivation to write.

5. Yesterday, I wanted a car so bad. I decided to get off the red line and transfer to a bus that would drop me off right in front of my door, rather than taking the train that drops me off about a mile from the house. I waited 20 minutes for that bus, then it was packed to the brim and dummies acted like they didn't know how to move to the back. While waiting for the bus I was thinking about how I'd choose a car, what the note would be, how that would affect my condo saving, the insurance, the gas, the parking fees, the parking tickets, the speeding tickets and the inevitably leaving my car somewhere because I'm too slammed to drive it home and having to go pick it up in the morning and forgetting where I left it, then I decided, the packed bus is ok. I'll get a car after I buy a condo.

6. It's not ok for people to wear sunglasses inside anywhere. Church (sorry young choir member, even on youth Sunday that's out of order), the Club, R & P's Chicago wedding reception... NO WHERE. However, being the analytical person I am, I've discovered a way to make myself feel better about the situation. Instead of pointing out the said dummy that insists on shading his eyes from the blaring artificial indoor light, I've convinced myself that ALL dummies wearing sunglasses inside are cross-eyed. AND the only way said dummy could compete with the rest of the world is to wear sunglasses. Then I feel much better about the situation.

And you know me, I've taken it to the next level. When said dummy takes off the glasses, I still see him as cross-eyed and therefore cannot communicate with him AT ALL for fear that I might say something ignorant like "Are you looking at me or her? ...just checking."

7. Please tune in tomorrow, I have a "Do You See What I See/Question of the Day" combo, you won't want to miss.

8. Lastly, scroll down to Friday's post and answer the Ed Hardy question, if you haven't already. I'm so serious.

Friday, August 1, 2008

Question of the Day: Ed Hardy

Who is Ed Hardy and when did his shirts get hot?

I know I could google him, but I want to know how you know about him. The reason I ask is because I've seen EVERYONE wearing Ed Hardy shirts. Soccer moms, gangstas, bikers, bicylers, high school students, middle age folks ... err'body. I saw a purple Ed Hardy tank at a discount store for $45... and that was AT A DISCOUNT STORE!

I'm not fashion forward or anything, but I usually recognize brands before they become household staples.

Someone, please enlighten me.