Interracial Dating: Let's talk about it.
Essence recently sent out a photo gallery showing African American women in interracial relationships.
When I first got it in my inbox I was infuriated because I thought it was about Black MEN in interracial relationships. Now, Essence is supposed to be for Black women, but every since TimeWarner took over, they've been pissing me off. Profiling dudes with white wives (no disrespect, but it's supposed to be a magazine for and about BLACK WOMEN), putting Mariah Carey on the cover WAY too much (You know she only identifies with her Black side now that her husband is Black... womp.), and giving WAY to much love to the big girls. I'm sorry, shapely women are sexy, but heart attacks are not and Essence acts like every big girl is healthy. Even Mo'Nique and Queen Latifah are losing weight to be healthier, please recognize, the gym is your friend.
So anyway, I was pretty surprised by the reactions that came up when I saw that article. When I thought it was black men with other races of women, I was mad, but when I realized it was black women with other races of men, I had a you-go-girl type of attitude. I really thought I had a more forward-thinking attitude than that, but I can't control my feelings, only the actions I take regarding those feelings.
I actually have no problem with interracial relationships (or at least I don't think I do). I did at one time. (Sam & Josh would be surprised to hear me say that, because I've threatened them about bringing white girls home. [Don't judge me] They don't listen to me though. Truth be told, if they really love someone and she treats them well, I really don't care, but they don't need to know that right now. I need them to at least attempt to marry a sista).
I do, however, have a problem with identity crises and denying your race (i.e. I know a sister with a blonde weave who only dates white men and wants to adopt a white child. She asked a black friend of mine if she could babysit her pale light-skinned daughter, but didn't want to babysit her caramel colored son. Really?)
I could go on and on on this topic, but if you've given up on any race of people based on the few negative experiences you've had in your short life, you're a lost cause and I hope whoever you end up with is as twisted as you are, so you two can deserve each other.
Personally, I'd date outside of my race without a second thought, but for the most part, I haven't found any non-black men [in real life] that I'm extremely attracted to who are also attracted to me. It's usually a one-sided type of deal. i.e. I like Jude-Law-esque white boys and they like tall blondes OR Zero-swag white boys like me... I can't go. OR they're attracted to some negative image of a black women that they think I'm going to play out (I'm not a video hoe dude, get your life together).
I'll add more of my thoughts in the comments, but like Malik on The Game would say, how do you feel about the swirl?